Sometimes, gay males love the allure of an anonymous, risky and very public gay hookup, and a washroom cruise spot is a great way to stimulate all these kinks, among other things.

If you’re new to gay cruising and want to start, don’t know how to, or want to know how you can tell when another man is DTF, this piece is for you!

Why Start Cruising Gay Restrooms

Cruising for sex can happen pretty much anywhere. Public spaces such as airports, train stations, truck stops, libraries, or parks are all potential hot spots for men that are looking for some man-on-man action.

But it’s in men’s restrooms – the public toilets – where some of the most satisfying cruising goes down.

You might think gay restroom cruising is a thing of the past. Why bother cruising when you can put the technology to work?

But the anonymous thrills of cruising are very much alive and kicking. It’s not just for closeted guys who need to be discreet – once you’ve had a taste of the adrenalin rush of a restroom encounter, there’s no doubt you’ll be back for more.

How to Find a Gay Public Toilet

Let’s be honest; any restroom or public washroom has the potential to be a hot spot for man-on-man action. But wherever you are, there are bound to be some washrooms that are known as the go-to options if you want some cruising action.

Word-of-mouth is really effective, but unless you’re already connected with guys who are into that kind of thing, your best bet is online listings such as Squirt.org.

Generally, washrooms that are a bit out of the way are the preferred option for cruising. You don’t want too much traffic – you don’t want any unwanted attention. You’re looking for a quiet spot where guys can get to business without interruptions.

But the reality is that if you’re wondering – “Is there any gay cruising near me?” – the answer will be yes. You just need to be alert to the signals and open to the opportunities.

How to Tell When Men Are Cruising Toilets

There are a couple of tried and tested signals that you should keep an eye out for regarding gay cruising etiquette.

If the guy in the cubicle next to you taps his foot, that generally means that he’s up for some action.

A swipe of the fingers is another sign to look for. Traditionally, this has been used for glory holes – if you swipe your fingers around the edge of the glory hole, it’s game on. But it also works for understall action; if the guy in the cubicle next to you swipes his fingers along the bottom of the wall, he’s ready to play.

If you’re open to a bit of cruising fun, check out the cubicle that’s furthest away from the door or the part of the urinal that’s obscured. If there’s any action to be had, this is where it will be.

How to Cruise for Guys at a Public Washroom

You need to be aware of the laws in your area. In some parts of the world, there’s no law against cruising. In others, having sex in a public washroom is illegal. Some police forces actively target known cruising spots and will try and arrest men they suspect of cruising. Make sure you know the local rules.

Once you’re up-to-speed with the legal situation, then you’re ready for action.

The main thing about cruising in a public washroom is to take your time. Don’t be in a rush. Observe what’s going on around you.

You might notice a guy or two hanging around the entrance to the washroom. If they’re interested, they might follow you in.

If the washroom is deserted, head to the farthest cubicle and get comfortable. See who else comes in. See if someone comes into the adjacent cubicle and gives you any signals – such as tapping their foot or swiping their fingers.

If a guy is standing at the urinal, and you like his look, stand next to him at the urinal. Take your time, let him take a look at your cock. Take your lead from him; has he got his cock out? Is he hard? Is he jacking his cock?

Once you’ve connected with someone, and it’s clear that you’re both on the same page and up for some fun, then you’ve got a couple of options.

Some guys like an audience – they’ll suck you or want you to suck them while standing at the urinal. Others might want a bit more privacy, so suggest that you head into a cubicle to get it on.

Depending on the design of the cubicles, understall action can be a lot of fun. Get down on the floor and get to grips with each other.

Public washrooms get much more interesting once you appreciate that a satisfying sexual encounter could be on the table.

Do you spit on it to get it wet? Let’s take a look at why some guys use spit as their go-to lube option.

Why use spit as lube?

The simple answer as to why guys use spit as lube is that it’s convenient.

If you’re having a quick wank, you can spit into your hand and you’ve got some wetness ready to go.

Likewise, if you’ve found some unexpected action in a gay cruising bathroom, you can spit on the dude’s hole to help ease your way inside him.

Spit is the friend of spontaneity.

But there’s also something a bit more organic about spit than a chemically manufactured lubricant. If you want the musk of sweaty man-on-man action, using spit as lube helps make that fuck feel really primal.

Speaking of primal, there’s probably also something instinctive about what it means to spit on each other. It could be a power-play – if a dude lets another man spits into his mouth, is that the ultimate form of submission?

Some guys also have a bit of spit kink or might even have a fetish for it. 

There’s lots of reasons why spit may play a key role in your sexual encounters.

Why do I find using spit as lube such as turn on?

If using spit as lube is a turn-on for you, then you’ve probably got some kind of kink that somehow makes spit psychologically more arousing than fumbling around near the cumrags searching for a tube of lube.

One possible trigger for the kink is that using spit as lube runs counter to the whole concept of condoms and “hygiene” being the foundation of safer sex. If you’re turned on my enjoying the feeling of a major cumshot flooding your stretched cunt, then you’re probably also going to find it fairly arousing to have a guy spit in your mouth or spit on your fuck-hole as he opens you up. It’s a bit piggy, in the best possible way.

Should I still be using spit as lube for gay bareback sex?

Using spit as lube doesn’t really work when you’re using condoms in your sexual encounters. If you want to wear a condom when fucking, you’re going to need your go-to lube brand to get the viscosity required. 

But the skin-on-skin nature of gay bareback sex means that a bit of spit will take you a long way. Sure, you may need also need some lube to help get things started, but getting him wet with spit – rimming his ass and spitting on his hole – is a very fun way to build the sexual energy between you.

Obviously, if you’re exchanging bodily fluids, you are exposing yourself to a higher risk of transmitting or acquiring an STI. Studies show that not using lube while fucking probably results in higher rates of sexually transmitted infections. It’s not just the exchange of bodily fluids, but high-quality lube reduces friction and can help avoid micro-tears. If you’re just using spit, there’s likely to be more friction, your ass will probably get a bit more aggravated or “torn up” during the fucking, and those micro-tears can enable an infection to enter your body.

Should I use spit only when I’m getting into gay fisting?

When it comes to gay fisting, it’s unlikely that spit is going to provide sufficient lubrication for that kind of intense action.

Sometimes the porn that we watch can create unrealistic expectations – while you might enjoy jacking off to the image of a rosebudding twink quivering in a gay sex sling being fisted hard and deep without any focus on the logistics of how that fist got in there, the reality is that a lot of lube, patience, experience, and trust is required to open up a guy’s cunt like that.

What is the best fisting lube?

If you’re looking for the best gay fisting lube, what you need is a long-lasting lube that maintains viscosity. You also can’t have anything toxic that might cause a negative reaction in your body. Remember, this lube is going deep.

While water-based lube is easy on your body and easy to clean, it doesn’t have the viscosity required for an extended fisting session.

Most fisting experts opt for a concentrated powdered lube – it’s effective and affordable. But fisting experts will often take years of fisting sessions to figure out the lube that works best for them. It can be a bit of a personal preference, so you need to be open to trying different options until you find something that helps you achieve the level of pleasure that you’re looking for.

Which is better: silicon or water-based lube?

It’s a good idea to try different types of lube and to understand the merits of the options that you’re considering. For example, water-based lubes are compatible with condoms and make clean-up easier, whereas silicone-based lubes are generally longer-lasting and provide a smoother ride if anal sex is your thing.

With the development of tools such as PrEP, PEP, TasP, and DoxyPEP, most guys are ditching condoms in their sexual encounters so silicone-based lubes are generally the preferred option.

If you’re using a silicone-based lube for your fuck-down, a bit of forward planning will help with the clean-up. For example, it’s worth investing in a large gay sex towel to help protect your sheets.

Organic lubricants such as Shea Butter or Coconut Oil are worth trying out. There’s also products such as Albolene, which the bator community has embraced.

So, can you use spit as lube in 2025?

Spit is ideal for non-penetrative sex and can also work for bareback anal fun – particularly if you’re the kind of guy that produces so much pre-cum that you’re leaking all over the sheets.

But if you’re using condoms, fisting, or going for an extended session with many more than a few people, some high-quality lube is going to be required to maximise your pleasure.