Sexual chemistry is important. Whether it’s with your partner, your boyfriend, your fuck buddy, or a stranger – sex is best when you’re in sync. Sometimes it’s hard to find someone you click with and even harder to tell if you really click with a guy. We’ve put together a checklist of compatibility points. Start at 0 and if you and your partner’s sex life fits the criteria then add +1 to your score. Check your total at the end to find out how compatible you are!
1. Your sexual position preferences fit
This one is pretty obvious, but it’s a very real obstacle as a gay or bi man. Two total tops might not have the best chances at having a good sex life, nor will two big ol’ bottoms. The exception to this is if you regularly incorporate third parties into your sex life. Tops, bottoms, and vers guys need to find someone who can be the other half to their whole sexual encounter, otherwise it’s time to move on!
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2. Your dominance & submissiveness is compatible
It’s equally important that you and your partner have compatible dominance levels. Two subs having sex is like a game of gay chicken, only with much more than kissing. Sex is a lot more enjoyable when you’re both on the same page in regards to who will take charge!
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3. You guys like it at the same pace
Some like it slow and sultry, others want it hard and fast. When you’re really compatible with a guy you find your rhythm together. Being vocal about what you want is a key part of this – make sure your top knows how hard you want it and make sure your bottom can handle it at your speed!
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4. You have the same kinks (or a willingness to indulge each other)
When you and a partner have the same kinks there are usually fireworks in the bedroom. Tie each other up, get spanking, or get leathered up – having a partner to explore these desires with is pure bliss. In the off chance your partner and you don’t share kinks, a truly compatible partner will be willing to compromise and indulge your sexual fantasies sometimes, if not always.
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5. He knows your buttons and how to press them
If you’re like most guys then you’ve probably got a spot that really gets you going. It might be the feeling of a tongue down your neck, a face in your pits, or a pinch on your nipples, but a good partner will know exactly what it is. They’ll whip out that technique at the right time and have you at your horniest. A bad lay will fumble around, missing the mark on what really drives you wild.
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6. You like to have sex in the same places
Some people are fine with keeping sex in the bedroom, but others prefer sex in crazy places. We’re talking about the forest fuckers, the bathroom blowers, and the public park plowers. The perfect sex partner will like to bang in the same places as you.
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7. You have similar views on sex and sexuality
Is your partner a prude while you’re more open minded? Are you set on monogamy but your partner wants to have sexual freedom? These can make or break your sex life together. Make sure you’re on the same page in regards to what is and isn’t okay.
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8. You’re size and depth compatible
Every guy has their own physical limitations. Some tops are less well-endowed than others and some bottoms can only handle a dick going so deep. If it’s a constant issue that the sex is unsatisfying or painful for one of you, then you may not be a good fit (literally and metaphorically).
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9. You have to resist tearing each other’s clothes off at every instant
This point comes down to attraction. If you’re really sexually compatible it will take self-restraint to keep yourself from blowing your man at every opportunity. You should feel a constant sexual tension between you, a spark that you can’t ignore. Life is too short for mediocre levels of attraction. Fuck someone you can’t keep your hands off of.
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10. You like the same sex positions
It’s great if you guys fit together physically and you’re into the same things, but if you can’t settle on positions you both enjoy, then sex will be awkward! If he just wants to do doggy style and you’re a sucker for some missionary making out, then it probably won’t work. Make sure you want the same things!
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How did you do?
8-10:
You guys are perfect pounding partners. You’re fuck buddies to the stars. Take advantage of your compatibility and get laid today!
6-7:
You guys are doing okay. Your sexual views and interests match up for the most part, but there are occasional discrepancies. Overall the things that don’t line up aren’t a huge issue, and overall you’re having good enough sex.
4-5:
Your sex life is sub-par. You two bang but neither of you comes out really satisfied. You’re left longing for a little more every time.
1-3:
Why are you two still fucking? You’re better fucking your hand or a dildo. Or, better yet, find a new fuck buddy!
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