When a hook-up asks you where you want him to cum, what’s your instinctive response?

For many of us, the go-to answer is: “On my face!”

Let’s take a look at why getting a faceful of cum is such a turn-on.

What is a gay facial?      

While this is a term that could probably be applied to the treatments you’ll find in a luxury day-spa, when we’re talking about facials in the context of sex, we’re talking about one dude blowing his load all over the face of another dude.

Why do I find gay facials in porn so hot?

There’s lots of reasons that we’re turned on by cum on the face. It could be a form of kink, it could be an element of BDSM – the idea of someone taking control and asserting dominance is physically and visually illustrated by them cumming on your face. That BDSM vibe could tie in with a kink about feeling humiliated and demeaned.

For some guys, the appeal of the facial is connected to oral sex. There’s no better confirmation that you’ve delivered an epic gay blowjob than when he cums like a geyser and smears it all over your lips.

But human desire is pretty complex – much of it is primal. Who knows why we’re erotically triggered by seeing a guy’s face covered in cum? Sometimes we just have to accept that our body instinctively knows what it wants – if your cock is hard then just go with it, you’re into it.

Does taking a facial cumshot make me gay?

While identity is important and powerful, sometimes we can get too hung up on labels – particularly when it comes to sexuality. If you’re a dude that enjoys a gay hookup or you occasionally get your asshole rimmed, that doesn’t necessarily mean that you’re going to start identifying as gay. It might – if you want to, that’s cool. But enjoying a bit of man-on-man action doesn’t have to mean anything more than you enjoy a bit of man-on-man action. Let’s not overthink it.

What is gay bukkake

We can thank the Japanese for bukkake. It’s quite common in Japanese restaurants to see bukkake on the menu – it describes a dish where hot broth is poured over noodles. The word bukkake is used in this context because it describes pouring liquid with sufficient momentum that it splashes or spills.

In the context of sex, when someone refers to bukkake – whether that’s straight bukkake or gay bukkake – we’re talking about multiple people cumming on someone’s face.

There are some theories that this began as some kind of ritual humiliation during the time of the samurai, but what seems more plausible is that bukkake fantasies emerged as a way that Japanese porn studios could get around the country’s strict censorship laws.

Because Japan’s censors required genitals to be pixelated, a scene where the cum went all over someone’s face was able to be more explicitly shown. It was in the mid-80s that Japanese porn studios began creating scenes with multiple cum-shots to the face and describing it as bukkake.

How do I arrange a bukkake facial?

In theory, arranging a bukkake is just like organising any gay group sex party or gay circle jerk – you just need to get a group of guys in a room, get them naked, and have at it, right?

The reality is that the logistics are a little more complicated, and communication is really important at every step of the way. 

In terms of recruiting the guys, Squirt remains the top gay hookup app to connect with horny dudes in your area. Pick a date, find a location, and then put the technology to work to see who’s available.

Whether it’s you or someone else who is going to be the designated recipient of all the loads, you need to make it clear to everyone from the outset what the intention of the party is. Everyone needs to be on board with the concept.

It’s easiest to describe the format as a circle-jerk that climaxes with a bukkake. That way, everyone can stroke themselves and each other, building the sexual energy, and then try to edge for an extended period until everyone is ready to cum.

You need to try and get everyone to cum at pretty much the same time. A bukkake is most effective and most fun when the cum starts flying from all directions – it’s more satisfying for everyone involved if it’s practically a tsunami of cum. If it’s just one random big gay cumshot after another, the fantasy quickly loses momentum.

Will I get cum in my mouth during a gay facial?

If getting cum in your mouth doesn’t vibe with your facial fantasy, you can just keep your mouth closed. But it’s also helpful if you can communicate with your hook-up about what you’re into and what you’re not into. If he knows that you’re not into tasting his cum, then he can do his best to smear his cum over your cheeks. 

Minimising your exposure to STIs is likely to be your primary driver of not wanting cum in your mouth, which is reasonable. While facials are a form of non-penetrative sex, because there’s bodily fluids involved it’s obviously not as low-risk as something like frottage, mutual masturbation, or jerk-off play. 

How do I practice safe gay sex when men cum on my face?

The first step is to get tested regularly so that you are up-to-date with your own health.

We’ve not got access to tools that are really effective at preventing HIV transmission – PrEP, PEP, and TasP. Make sure that you’re up-to-speed with those and know which option is right for you.

In terms of other STIs, some guys use doxycycline postexposure prophylaxis (doxyPEP) to reduce the risk of acquiring an infection – particularly after a session of gay bareback sex. Have a chat with your sexual health clinic to see if doxyPEP is something you might benefit from.