There’s something about warm water cascading down over your body that is instinctively a bit horny, right? Sliding a sudsy hand down your chest is probably going to get your cock twitching in anticipation.

Maybe we’ve been conditioned by our locker-room fantasies, or possibly we’re imagining what would happen if we dropped the soap in the prison showers, but the prospect of showering with other men is undeniably boner material.

What is gay shower sex?

A solid solo masturbation in the shower probably technically counts as shower sex, but generally we’re talking about getting naked in the shower with one or more other guys.

Although prison rape fantasies might be pushing your consensual non-consensual kink buttons, before you make a grab for the guy that you’re showering with, it’s important to have established that everyone is consenting to what is about to go down.

It might start with some eye-contact, or maybe he makes the first move by offering to wash your back, or possibly you could move in close and go for the classic reach-around.

Shower sex doesn’t have to mean anal – although a bit of soap can provide the lubrication required. Stroking each other and some casual ass-play is still a very horny way to get off while you’re getting clean.

Why have gay bareback sex in the shower?

 While we never kink-shame, and a gay armpit fetish is definitely something we can get into, one of the advantages of getting your fix of gay bareback sex in the shower is that it removes any doubts about cleanliness – something that can often kill the vibe when you’re cruising in a video sex arcade.

One of the best options for shower sex is to find a gay local bathhouse near you – most bathhouses will offer a wet area that includes an open shower space which enables you to not only hook up in the shower but probably also pushes your exhibitionist buttons if you’re into public play.

Can I use soap as lube while having gay shower sex?

If you’ve got the water cascading down over your body and you’re trying to get it on, you’ll probably find that spit isn’t enough lube to get his dick inside you. While soap is generally readily available in a shower and will easily provide a bit of slip and slide, it’s not recommended as an alternative to lube during gay shower sex – specifically if you’re looking to get dicked-down.

The reason soap isn’t a great alternative to lube in the context of anal sex is that most soaps contain chemicals that are too harsh for the sensitive insides of your butt.

Ideally, you want to use silicone-based lube in the shower. Silicone lube is a better option than water-based lube because the silicone is water-resistant – water-based lube will instantly dissolve and won’t be of much value if you’re fucking in the shower.

Enhance your shower sex at home

A big standing shower is the ideal space for fucking while you’re getting clean, but it’s important to be mindful of your surroundings. You don’t want to be pressed up a glass panel if the construction isn’t sturdy. Repairing a shower can get expensive.

If it’s a shower over a bath – which is common in a lot of European bathrooms and holiday-rentals – you don’t want to fall awkwardly if the plastic curtain that you’re holding onto rips off its rail. Some sort of non-slip rubber mat is always a good move in a bath – ensuring that you’ve got secure footing before the action gets serious.

Should I have sex with guys in the gym showers?

Cruising for some man-on-man action is pretty much the reason why the Ancient Greeks invented the concept of the gymnasium. A dedicated space where guys get together to exercise provides numerous opportunities for a gay gym cruising hookup – as well as the shower, there’s the steam room or sauna, or you can just start fucking in the locker-room.

Remember, your sexual encounters don’t all have to revolve around anal sex – a gay mutual masturbation session may be more expedient and equally as fun if your work-out has got your blood pumping.

But even if you’re into risky gay public sex or public masturbation, most gyms will actively discourage guys from having sex on the premises. Before you jerk off the muscle-daddy that’s been eye-fucking you from across the weight room, it’s important to know what the laws are in your local city or US state, just in case you need to navigate an awkward conversation with the gym manager.

Put the technology to work

Even if you’re a gay cruising aficionado or if you’ve lucked-out and signed up at the local gay hookup gym, a hook-up app will undoubtely help you get what you want in the most efficient way possible.

Get on Squirt before you start your workout. Send a few DMs and let the local guys know that you’re about to get sweaty and horny. Check your messages as your workout progresses and see who is around and keen to meet you in the showers.

How do I have gay shower sex at the gym?

Everyone will give you the same gay cruising tips and techniques – it all comes down to whether you’ve got the confidence to put the knowledge of your forefathers into action.

Cruising is all about non-verbal body language. Make eye-contact. Make sure he sees that you’re looking at him. A knowing smile and a little nod will confirm that you’re both on the same page. 

Timing is everything. If he’s heading into the locker-room, then that’s your cue to follow him in. If he’s getting undressed at his locker, follow suit. Make it clear that you’re not in a hurry, let him see your body – all of it.

If he’s heading into the sauna or the steam-room, follow him in.

If he makes a move for the shower, this is your opportunity to join him under the water.

It’s not complicated – it just takes confidence. The hornier you are, the more confident you’ll be.