While your sexuality doesn’t dictate whether or not you experience pleasure via your prostate, it’s a reasonable assumption that gay guys are a bit more in tune with that part of their anatomy.

But how essential is a prostate massager if you’re wanting to ride the wave of an ass-gasm?

What is a prostate sex toy?

A prostate massager pretty much does what it says on the tin – it’s a sex-toy that is designed to hit that pleasure spot that’s most accessible via your butt.

Your prostate is a gland that forms part of the male reproductive system. Located below the bladder, your prostate is about the size of a chestnut.

It’s not really clear why prostate stimulation feels good, but we don’t need to understand everything – we’re built to be sexual beings.

When a guy is fucking you, most of the pleasure that you’re feeling is because his cock is stimulating your prostate. In order to simulate that during a solo masturbation session, you’ll probably need a sex-toy to hit the spot.

What are the health benefits of giving yourself a prostate massage?

Giving your prostate a regular seeing to isn’t just about the pleasure that you’ll experience, there are also some actual health benefits.

One of the big health risks faced by men as we get older is prostate cancer. Research suggests that regular stimulation of the prostate helps to keep it active and healthy.

There might also be some benefits in relation to premature ejaculation. One study involving 48 patients found that prostate massages, rectal probe high-frequency vibration treatments, and low-intensity shockwave therapy sessions were effective in treating premature ejaculation.

Can a prostate massager help me get better at sex?

Pretty much the only way to get better at gay sex is to put the work in and practice. Regular use of sex-toys such as prostate massagers can help to train yourself to relax and really enjoy getting dicked-down. Sex-toys help your body adjust to the size and pressure of having a cock in your ass, and help you overcome any anxiety or psychological barriers that might be preventing you from getting the most out of anal play.

Sex toys also help to bring a fresh dynamic to your solo sessions. Expand your masturbation beyond simple stroking and you’ll start to unlock the pleasure of a deep gay edging session.

What shapes and sizes does a prostate massager come in?

Because of the physiology of our bodies, sex-toys that are pitched as prostate massagers are all going to look fairly similar.

Curved or L-shaped design: These massagers typically have a pronounced curve that targets the prostate. The curved shape helps reach and apply pressure to the prostate more effectively; the best example is the Lovense Edge or Edge 2 (Lovense is a brand we’ve covered before when discussing the best long-distance gay sex toys).

P-Spot or Bulbous: These have a bulbous end or multiple rounded sections that increase in size to provide a fuller sensation and more intense stimulation; think LELO’s Huge line of prostate gay sex toys, also known as a T-Handle, with a long base. A design like this ensures safety by preventing the device from going too far inside the body and also provides an easy grip for manual manipulation.

Vibrating Massagers: These may have a more complex shape, often incorporating a curved shaft with ridges or textures and a vibrating element to enhance the experience.

Does a prostate massager have to vibrate to work?

A classic prostate massager doesn’t require a vibrating function – it’s more about the shape to ensure that you’re able to hit your pleasure point as you thrust it inside yourself.

Having the option of turning on a vibration feature can help to mix things up a bit – switching things up and keeping your body stimulated from every angle is going to maximise the sensations you’ve got going on.

Can I use a gay dildo sex toy to give myself a prostate massage?

Not all sex toys are equal. While most cock-shaped dildos have the potential to deliver some prostate pleasure, you really need the specific design of a prostate massager in order to target it effectively.

When you’re shopping for a sex toy, be clear on your intention. If you’re prioritising size – girth or length – or perhaps fantasy over prostate pleasure, then that’s going to guide your choices.

How do I give myself a deep prostate massage?

We’ve had a fair bit of practice at this – here’s what we’ve learnt so far:

Relax and set the mood

Before you begin, create a comfortable and relaxing environment for yourself. Make sure you have some privacy and won’t be interrupted. Consider incorporating some relaxation techniques, such as deep breathing. Some guys use a gay hypnosis audio file to help get into the zone.

Use plenty of lubrication

Anyone who has had any experience of ass-play will understand the importance of lube. Unless you have a mythical self lubricating ass, you’re going need some quality lube to maximise the pleasure of shoving a cock or a dildo up your butt.

Find a comfortable position

Figuring out what feels good to you is going to take some experimentation. If you’re struggling to hit your prostate with your sex-toy, try different angles – on your back, on your side, standing up. Listen to your body.

Start slowly and gently

The general rule with ass-play is that you don’t want to rush things. Be relaxed, let your body relax, slowly start to work your toy in and out – gradually work it deeper as your body adjusts. Once you’ve found your sweet-spot, then you can start to get a bit more intentional with it.

Enjoy the moment

Lose yourself in the sensations that your body is experiencing. Focus on the pleasure and connection with yourself – think of it as a spiritual moment, an essential form of self-care that should be valued and prioritised.