Are you into fisting? It’s not for everyone, but there’s something incredibly intimate about being fisted or being able to sink your fist into a guy’s ass – it’s the ultimate trust exercise.

Let’s take a look at the allure of fisting and how you can level up your fisting fun.

Why Do Gay Men Fist?

“Fisting isn’t for everyone…” advises Luka Sage – a certified fisting specialist. “It’s not something that everyone has to try. But if it is something that you’re interested in trying, you should definitely research it and learn about it before making an attempt. If you like the feeling of being stretched out, or if you’re into really big dicks, or big dildos, or depth play, then it’s probably something you might want to take a look at.”

How do I navigate my first gay fisting experience?

There are lots of factors at play when you’re navigating a fisting session – different aspects of the experience will appeal to different guys, depending on what pushes your buttons.

Extreme anal stimulation is definitely one of the main drivers. If you’ve been working your way up the dildo sizes, doing your gay anal training sessions, or you’re with a guy and a few fingers or a girthy dick ain’t enough anymore, a fist is definitely going to be on your to-do list.

If you’re watching a lot of fisting porn and your hole is aching to be worked over like the fist-pigs on your screen, then anal stimulation and a good rectum punch are going to be high on your wish list.

Why else do guys engage in gay fisting sex play?

Control and submission is another important aspect of fisting that appeals to a lot of guy. If you are giving a guy the green light to grease up his fists and get to work ruining your cunt, then that’s a pretty big deal. The power dynamic that’s at play is pretty intoxicating for everyone involved, and it’s hard not to consider the gay BDSM and power plays happening when you’re giving and receiving a good ol’ fist.

Intimacy is another thing that lots of fisting experts will talk about.

Plain old barebacking can sometimes feel a bit transactional – fuck, cum, go. But fisting is a whole other ball game. You’ve got to be a bit slower with fisting; you need a fair bit of communication when you’re fisting; the foreplay and initial stretch to the final goal is there. Plus, you’re also getting lots of eye contact. There’s possibly nothing quite as romantic as being fisted.

Is Fisting Dangerous?

Some people describe fisting as a bit of an extreme sexual sport – a pursuit that inevitably comes with some risks.

While it’s true that if fisting goes wrong, then you can do some damage but that is pretty much true of anything that you tackle.

Your body copes surprisingly well with having a guy’s fist stretching out your sphincter. There’s nothing inherently bad about fisting – you’re not going to do your body any long-term damage. Your sphincter is totally used to stretching and contracting as the situation requires.

The main risks associated with fisting are when you’re not using enough lube, or you’re taking things too fast.

It’s a good idea to be sober when you’re fisting. If you’re intoxicated on something, then you won’t be as in tune with your body if something starts to hurt or feels uncomfortable. As we mentioned above, fisting is an intimate experience, so you want to be present. Drugs and alcohol may make you loose and ready, but may also lead to you not picking up when a love fist becomes one of anger. If you have Rocky going to town on you like you’re Apollo, and you’re inebriated, it could be bad news.

How Do I Practice Fisting Before Gay Sex?

It’s pretty much impossible to have a conversation at a gay bar without someone giving you anal sex tips, but if you’re a bit fist-curious, then here are some easy steps to get you started.

Slow and steady wins the race

Before you take a fist up your ass, you’re going to need to practice, and you’re going to need to research. Get comfortable with ass play. Watch lots of fisting porn – get a feel for how fisting works.

Of course, if you’ve never bottomed before, fisting may seem like a foreign curiosity. But if you’re into it, get going with some gay dildo play at home, phone a friend for some fingers, and eventually get to that point where the whole hand eventually is just a familiar pleasure choice.

Become a size queen

Reinforcing the above, make sure that you’re feeling confident about taking a fist by slowly working your way up in the size of the dildos that you’re bouncing on. Think about girth – that’s what is probably going to test you the most.

Fisting foreplay

If you’re ready for some fisting fun, grab that partner and their helping hand, and don’t forget to warm everything up with some extended foreplay. You want to feel relaxed, you want to feel turned on, and you want your fuck-hole twitching in expectation of being properly worked over.

Lube it up

Fisting specialists will generally have a unique fisting lube brand and mixes that they swear by. If you’re starting, you’re probably still experimenting with the different lube options. The basic rule is to use plenty of lube. Really go to town with the grease and ensure everything is sliding smoothly. When it comes to fisting, there’s no such thing as being too liberal.

First Time Fisting with a Friend? Follow These Tips.

Because of the intimacy required by fisting, you generally want to make sure that you’re doing it with someone that you know and trust.

A fuck-buddy is ideal because you’ve already established that you work together sexually, and then adding fisting into the mix is taking things that step further.

You need to keep reminding yourself to take it slow. Sure, the experts in fisting porn are taking a guy’s arm up to the elbow like it’s nothing. It’s not a competition. Just do what feels right for you.

Communication is absolutely vital. That doesn’t mean that you have to give a running commentary on the experience—your communication may be mostly nonverbal. But use plenty of eye contact. Let him know when you’re feeling good and when you need to slow down or take a break.

Written by Gareth Johnson