Having an intimate relationship with someone requires us to allow ourselves to be vulnerable. In a relationship, your partner gets to see all of you – no filter. Strong relationships are built on good communication and trust, but discussions about health can sometimes present complicated challenges that we need to navigate.
Whether it’s updates about your HIV status, or just sharing the results of a recent STI test, there can be a lot of anxiety associated with sexual health discussions when we’re in a relationship.
This blog aims to provide tips and strategies to help gay men have safe and honest conversations about HIV and STI statuses with their partners.
Let’s explore the power of honest and open dialogue and how it can foster healthier relationships.
Should you disclose your HIV status in a relationship?
This is a slightly complicated topic because there’s some parts of the world that legally require you to disclose your HIV status, and others where you could be committing an offence if you recklessly expose someone to the virus.
From a health perspective – with the protections available through PrEP and TasP – there’s no specific reason why you need to disclose your HIV status unless you want to.
Having said that, in the interests of open and honest communication, it’s probably a good idea to share HIV status in the context of talking about sexual health and health generally. For example, the conversation could go something like:
Your boyfriend: “I have asthma, so I carry an inhaler.”
You: “Cool, I have HIV, so I take medication for that. I’m undetectable.”
“Your boyfriend: “That’s good that you’re undetectable. I’m taking PrEP so we’ve got that well and truly covered.”
Of course, if you encounter any HIV-related stigma in that kind of conversation, then that’s a bit of a red-flag for the relationship going forward. It’s always good to educate people who aren’t up-to-date with where we’re at with HIV, but it’s not a very sexy conversation.
Gay bareback sex is a turn-on, battling stigma and misinformation is not.
What should you consider before disclosing your HIV status?
Thinking about STIs may not be at the top of your priority list when you’re in the early stages of what could be an exciting relationship, but it’s never a bad idea to check in with yourself about your sexual health.
A good starting point is to make sure that you’re up-to-date with your STI testing. You need to know where you’re at with HIV and any other potential issues. That gives you a really firm foundation to share that information with your partner when that conversation happens.
How do you explain undetectable HIV to your partner?
If you are HIV-positive and undetectable, you’re probably very-much-over explaining what undetectable means. However, if you’re beginning a new relationship and the guy that you’re dating is HIV-negative, then you may need to help him get up-to-speed on the facts.
If you are HIV-positive and on effective medication, it’s likely – and can be confirmed by testing – that your viral load is undetectable. This means that you cannot transmit the virus to anyone else.
Obviously, you can be in a relationship and have sex with other people. Your partner may still choose to take PrEP. He knows that you won’t transmit HIV to him, but someone who is not undetectable might.
What if your partner is not ready to handle your HIV status?
If you disclose to your partner that you are HIV-positive and they are not ready to handle the information, that feels like a bit of a deal-breaker.
Your HIV status isn’t going to change. Sure, you could do your best to educate them and overcome the stigma that they’re associating with the virus, but that feels like a lot of work with no guarantee that it will be worth the effort.
How do I disclose that I am a gay man with herpes?
If you are a gay man with herpes, you may wonder how to disclose your status to your partner. The best way to inform them about your situation is to say that you have herpes. You can explain that the herpes virus can cause sores on the skin. Additionally, you can tell them that it is a prevalent virus and that most people have it.
Most people with herpes take pills, such as acyclovir (Zovirax), famciclovir (Famvir), and valacyclovir (Valtrex). You can tell your partner that you are taking medication to control the virus and minimise the risk of transmission.
Additionally, you can be honest about your symptoms and any potential risks. Your partner should know there is a slight chance that they could contract the virus, but again, this is not likely to happen with you maintaining the proper treatment.
Do not be afraid, to be honest in your gay relationship. Honesty is always the best policy, especially regarding topics such as HIV status, STIs or herpes.
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Everyone is talking about AI, right? We’ve all seen enough science-fiction movies where Artificial Intelligence goes rogue to know that the world would never be ready for when the full power of AI was unleashed.
As far as we know, we may not yet be at a Skynet level of self-awareness, but AI is already shaping every aspect of our lives.
At a basic level, the application of AI to porn is reasonably obvious – photoshopped celebrity fakes walked so that AI could run.
But that’s only scratching the surface of how AI could help us explore our fantasies.
Using artificial intelligence technology to create adult content sounds reasonably straightforward. Still, it exposes a heap of moral and ethical dilemmas that no one has the bandwidth to contemplate. Let’s break it down further.
Always the early adopters coming out of Japan, we’re seeing some examples of the potential of AI porn in the world of Hentai.
Hentai is a form of Manga illustration and comics. Hentai artists create explicit content that often focuses on fantastical or exaggerated characters. It’s an old-school example of how our sexual fantasies can often take us in weird and wonderful directions – a place where real-world limitations don’t apply to what fuels our imaginations.
Research on hentai consumers suggests that interest in gay hentai comics doesn’t supplant real-world attractions or desires to connect sexually with other people – it’s just a way to explore fantasies that aren’t possible in our day-to-day lives.
It’s the unlimited sexual fantasies that Hentai offers which make it a powerful way to unleash your imagination. For example, taboo fantasies that aren’t able to be brought to life by real-world performers in the adult entertainment industry can all be drawn in explicit detail.
Particularly popular are non-con fantasies. Because rape is illegal, it’s problematic to try and safely explore non-con fantasies, but Hentai creates a world where anything is possible. You don’t have to try and navigate the complexities of consensual non-consent role play.
What is the difference between gay AI porn and gay deepfake porn?
A deep fake is where technology is used to superimpose the face of a particular individual onto the body of a porn actor in a video. It’s a form of artificial intelligence but relatively limited because it uses two existing things to create the end result.
Artificial intelligence is rapidly becoming much more powerful in what it can create from scratch – learning from everything that has gone before it to synthesize content that aligns with where our fantasies might take us.
What is the scientific attraction of ai-generated gay porn?
It’s what feels like the unlimited possibilities of AI-generated porn that make this such a potentially powerful way for us to explore our fantasies.
While gay OnlyFans content creators work hard to film scenes and engage with their audiences, there are only so many times a day that they can physically fuck for the camera. Those real-world restrictions don’t apply to artificial intelligence.
They can dramatically increase the volume of content being produced and create fantasy scenarios that aren’t physically or legally possible for real-world performers.
Masahiro Mori, a Japanese professor, first articulated the concept of the Uncanny Valley. The term describes the feeling of unease or discomfort humans experience when encountering a robot that looks almost but not quite human.
We are currently seeing that playing out with the AI-generated porn that is currently being produced. That sense of “it doesn’t look real” or “it looks too good to be true” is that negative impulse that kicks in when we’re looking at something that feels like it is pretending to be real, but we know that it isn’t.
As AI becomes an increasingly common part of our everyday life, the uncanny valley unease will most likely dissipate – the quality of the porn will increase and we’ll become less concerned with differentiating between what is real and what is AI-generated.
The Power and Control from Computer-Animated AI Porn
There is an argument that the increasing availability and sophistication of AI will further democratize the porn landscape.
You want to fuel your fantasies with a gay sex orgy; with the power of AI at your fingertips, you won’t have to wait for a porn studio or a content creator to film something that turns you on. You’ll be able to create the exact scenario that you’re imagining.
It’s also likely to be a judgement-free zone. If the sexual fantasies that turn you on are a bit niche or taboo, you’ll be able to lean into those without worrying what anyone else might think.
Bespoke porn, no limits. This is a future we can all believe in.
