With the dominance of location-based hook-up apps, you might think that technological advancement has made the art of cruising for sex something that belongs to a bygone era.

But if you think that cruising is a thing of the past – equivalent to the vintage porn that showcases the men who came before us – you need to think again. If you’re a dude who is into a bit of man-on-man action, you need to know how to cruise.

That’s not to say that cruising hasn’t evolved. The way that our queer forefathers cruised for sex isn’t necessarily in sync with how we’re navigating sexual encounters today – we can’t rely on the hanky-code to figure out who’s into what.

Having a hook-up app on your phone effectively gives you the best of both worlds. For example, a site such as Squirt not only connects you with horny guys that are nearby, but also gives you listings of cruising hot spots in your area, as well as valuable tips and local knowledge.

But technology can only take you so far – you still need to be able to read a guy’s body language, you still need to be alert to signals such as a foot tap, a strategically placed finger, or eye contact in a truck-stop mirror.

How do we learn how to cruise? Unfortunately, this isn’t something that they’re teaching in Sex Ed classes. We generally learn by trial and error, by jumping into the deep end and trying to figure it out. But we can also turn to the men of adult entertainment – gay porn can definitely teach us a thing or two.

Let’s take a look at seven of our favourite gay porn scenes that explore the cruising fantasy and see what they teach us about navigating our search for intimacy in this crazy, mixed-up world.

Walk In The Park

Featuring Jayden Marcos and Kane Fox, Walk In The Park is a scene from Next Door Raw.

Directed by Micah Martinez, the scene gives us Jayden as a young guy heading into a local park for his first cruising experience. He’s heard that guys in the park are looking for sex; he knows that he wants to experience that, but he’s nervous and unsure how to actually go about it.

Fortunately, Jayden finds exactly what he’s looking for when he stumbles upon Kane. The bushes partly conceal Kane, but Jayden can clearly see that Kane has his cock out and is stroking.

Kane sees that Jayden is watching him. Kane is clearly comfortable with the dynamics of cruising and seems to sense that Jayden is a newbie.

“You know that you can come over here, right?” says Kane, encouraging Jayden to approach him.

This is a horny scene – we get to Kane fucking Jayden’s muscle-butt – but what are the cruising lessons? 

Lesson: Jayden came prepared – he had brought a backpack with him that included a blanket that came in handy when he was fucked by Kane. Also, it’s okay to ask questions. “You’ve got to come on Saturdays – Saturdays are where it’s at…” explained Kane, when Jayden admitted he wasn’t sure how to meet guys when cruising. A bit of local knowledge gets you a long way.

No Time To Relax

Featuring Andrew Delta and Colt Spence, No Time To Relax is a scene from Next Door Raw.

Directed by Jared Camelon, the scene gives us Colt Spence as a stressed-out husband desperate for a bit of time by himself. 

Finally, with some time off from work and the house to himself, Colt strips off his clothes and stretches out to sunbathe by the backyard pool. But his alone time is interrupted when maintenance man Andrew Delta arrives unexpectedly to clean the pool.

This is a hot scene – we get to see Colt deep-dicking Andrew and breeding his stretched smooth man-cunt – but what does it teach us about cruising?

Lesson: Pay attention to body language. If someone is looking at you, then they’re interested in you. Let them know that you’ve noticed by giving them a wink or a smile – bend over and let them admire your ass and see what happens from there. Also, be open to opportunities for sex. Wherever you are, whatever you’re doing, you’re probably not going to be far away from a horny dude needing to unload.

Parking In The Rear

Featuring Derek Kage and Nicholas Ryder, Parking In The Rear is a scene from the Men Over 30 studio.

Directed by Micah Martinez, the scene gives us Derek Kage as a horny dude whose girlfriend isn’t available to fuck. Needing to take care of himself, Derek pulls into a parking lot, pulls out his cock and starts stroking. 

What Derek hadn’t realized was that Nicholas Ryder was in the car next to him and was keen to get in on the action.

Leaning into the fantasy of straight guys on the down-low, this scene really effectively captures the horniness of doing something we probably shouldn’t in places where we probably shouldn’t be getting our dicks out. Derek absolutely pounds Nicholas – cumming all over his stretched fuck-hole. But what does this teach us about cruising?

Lesson: Sexuality labels aren’t beneficial when you’re cruising. Whether a guy is straight, curious, or however he identifies, that’s none of your business. Does he want his dick sucked? Do you want to suck his dick? Any other information is superfluous. 

Also, try a cruising spot a couple of times to get a feel for it. “It’s usually busier on Tuesdays…” Nicholas explains to Derek in this scene. Just because you go to a known cruising spot and don’t find the action that you’re looking for doesn’t mean that you should give up on it. 

Tapping into the rhythm of how the locals cruise might require some persistence.

Gym Cruising

Featuring Ashton Silvers and Kyle Fletcher, Gym Cruising is a scene from Next Door Raw.

Directed by Big Mike, the scene gives us Ashton and Kyle as two dudes working out in the gym. It’s one of those 24-hour gyms – it must be late because Ashton and Kyle are the only guys there. Kyle seems to be setting the pace, taking his shirt off, and then his shorts off as he continues to exercise.

“What? Nobody’s here…” grins Kyle, when Ashton raises an eyebrow at him.

Ashton follows Kyle’s lead and also strips off.

“We should do this quick before someone catches us…” says Ashton, walking over to Kyle and bringing their bodies together – the sexual tension between them too strong to ignore.

As a porn scene, this is a good one – Ashton and Kyle flip-flop fuck, using various pieces of gym equipment to ensure an intense workout – but what does it teach us about cruising?

Lesson: The gym is always super-horny. Whether it’s the testosterone pumping, the musk of sweaty armpits, or just the homo-social locker-room vibe, guys aren’t just there for a work-out – they’re looking for sex. Also, make the most of your opportunities.

If you’re getting the green light from a guy and it’s clear that he’s up for some fun, don’t overthink it – get your dick out and get down to business.

Go For The Glory(hole)

Featuring Ryder Owens and Carter Collins, Go For The Glory(hole) is a scene from Next Door Taboo.

Directed by Micah Martinez, the scene gives us Ryder enjoying a solo bate session, which he’s fuelling by watching gay porn on his phone. 

Realizing that he needs the real thing, Ryder puts the technology to work and searches for nearby cruising options. This takes him to the local bathhouse, where he positions himself at a glory hole and gets to work on the cock that is presented to him. 

But it turns out that the cock that he is sucking belongs to his brother-in-law, Carter – both dudes quickly confess that they “wanted to experiment” and swear each other to secrecy. But Carter suggests that given that they’ve already gone this far, then it wouldn’t do any harm to experiment together a bit more – despite his reservations, Ryder is soon talked into letting Carter be the first dude to fuck him.

The taboo in this fantasy is that these are two straight guys, brothers-in-law, who both want to experience a bit of man-on-man action. It’s a horny scene, and Ryder takes dick like a natural – perhaps it’s not actually his first time being fucked.

But what does this scene teach us about cruising?

Lesson: A bathhouse or a sex-on-premises can take a lot of the guesswork out of the cruising experience. You still need to be tuned in to body language and signals, but everyone there is looking for action – all the hard work has been done for you.

Campfire Tales

Featuring Jayden Marcos, Drake Von, and Liam Cyber, Campfire Tales is a scene from Next Door Originals.

Directed by Micah Martinez, the scene gives us Jayden and Liam camping out in the woods. Swapping stories beside the fire, Jayden tells a tale that imagines what might happen if someone entered their tent in the middle of the night. We see Jayden’s imagination play out as Drake Von is the stranger with the big dick.

This is hot threesome action, but what does this scene teach us about cruising?

Lesson: You don’t need to ask a lot of questions when you’re cruising. You don’t need to know his name, his job, or where he lives. All you need is for him to get his dick out and get down to it.

Caught In The Car

Featuring Roman Todd and Carter DelRay, Caught In The Car is a scene from Next Door Raw.

Directed by Walden Woods, the scene shows Carter attempting to discreetly masturbate in his car, only to be interrupted by police officer Roman Todd. Not wanting to get in trouble, Carter offers to do whatever Roman wants if he’ll let him off.

There’s nothing like a bit of abuse of power to add some heat to our porn fantasies, and Roman takes full advantage of his uniform – handcuffing Carter while brutally fucking him. We get some really nice close-ups of Carter’s smooth fuck-hole being stretched by Roman’s girthy cock. But what does this scene teach us about cruising?

Lesson: It’s important to know what the local laws are. Whether you’re hanging out in a park or a truck stop or just stroking your cock in your car, a bit of knowledge about the risks that you’re running will help you intelligently navigate any drama if things don’t quite go to plan.