Masturbating in public is one gay male kink that many exhibitionists and risk-takers may enjoy. However, the practice is not without danger, and this is one kink that requires some level of discretion to avoid repercussions, including criminal consequences.

In this article, we detail the allure of this particular kink and how to do it safely, with all the fun one may get out of it.

Why Do People Masturbate in Public?

Jacking off in public is a pretty major turn-on for a lot of guys. We’re not talking about trying to harass anyone or being deliberately offensive, we’re talking about the thrill of getting your cock out and getting off.

Precisely why this is such a turn-on is a bit hard to say. For some guys, it’s the exhibitionist thrill of having people watching you go at it. For others, it’s the thrill of potentially getting caught.

There’s also something inherently sexy about breaking taboos – most of us have been conditioned to cover ourselves up at all times, and that sex is something that happens behind closed doors – throwing those rules out the window feels pretty good.

Is It Illegal to Masturbate in Public?

This depends a little on where you are in the world, but the answer is that it probably is illegal to get your cock out and start jacking off when there are other people around.

We are certainly not encouraging any illegal behaviour, so it’s important to do some research and find out what the rules are where you’re at before embarking on a spree of risky public masturbation.

In some parts of the world, getting naked is only an offence if it’s causing offence or distress to other people. So, jacking off in the sauna of a gay bathhouse is not a problem but if you start jacking off in the steamroom at your gym then you might have an issue if someone complains to the manager.

If you’re by yourself in the woods and it’s just you filming yourself to post some sexed-up clips to your Alt, then where’s the damage?

How to Masturbate in Public

A good starting point is to try and understand or pinpoint what your motivations are for wanting to masturbate in public.

It might be as simple as getting horny and needing to scratch that itch. If that’s the case, then just find your nearest toilet cubicle and get down to business.

However, if you’re spending time thinking about masturbating in public then there’s probably a bit more to it. What is it about masturbating in public that is pushing your buttons? Is it the exhibitionist thrill? Is it the risk of getting caught? Do you just need some fresh content for your subscribers?

Getting some answers to those questions will help to shape your plan of attack.

I need some fresh content for my subscribers

This is probably the easiest scenario to tackle. If you need to film some content, then just plan out the scene. For example, you may want to film yourself getting naked and jacking off in the woods. From there, it’s just logistics – find the location, figure out the camera position, get naked and get to work.

I like the rush I get from the risk of being caught

This scenario requires some spontaneity. The biggest thrills will come if you approach every public space with the thought in the back of your mind of – I wonder if I could jack off here?

What you’re wanting is to push the risk to the limit before actually getting caught.

If you’re jacking off in the gym changing rooms, you want to have your towel handy as you hear the footsteps approaching. If you’re down the back of the bus, you want to keep your rucksack close to strategically shield you.

I like the exhibitionist thrill of jacking off in front of other people

This scenario is perhaps the trickiest to pull off as you need people to see you and you need to be fairly confident that they’re going to be cool with it. That’s going to be much easier if you’re at a gay beach or a cruising spot than if you’re whipping it out on a crowded train.

Getting people to watch you while you’re jacking off in public is the scenario most likely to land you in trouble with the law – if you’re showing your cock to someone and they’re not into it, they could easily point the authorities in the direction of your erection.

Exploring the fantasy of jacking off in public

While it’s always fun to be able to fulfil our erotic fantasies, if public exhibitionism is what’s pushing your buttons then you should probably start by getting your thrills vicariously.

There’s plenty of erotic stories and professional videos out there that explore public jack-off and public sex scenarios. Put your imagination to work and project yourself into those stories – that way, you avoid the risk but get all the reward.

If you’re tired of the same, old gay sex in missionary position, or your dates just roll their eyes when you bring out the sling again, it’s time to shake things up!

Contrary to what some believe, there are more ways to fuck than we think. If what you’re doing works, no need to fix it. But for others, variety can be the spice of life. We’ve compiled some hot, if not interesting, sex positions to bring to the table (or the bed) with your boyfriend, husband or mate who you only know by his username.

What is the Best Gay Sex Position?

The right-for-you sex position will keep in mind a comfortable place for all, height and the comfort of the surface you’re on, to get people to the consensual and synchronized finish line.

While testing acrobatics and advanced Pilates moves during sex can be fun (and recommended when learning to self-suck), the best sex is the one that gets everyone off with no complaints.

This is why communication is essential. You might just be using body language or visual cues, but you need to let the guy you’re with know what feels good and what he wants more of.

You might have a few go-to favourites in your sexual tool-belt, but be prepared to mix it up – not only for the spice of variety but different positions will work better with different guys. You will need to experiment a bit to find the best fit.

Gay Foreplay Positions

Unless you’re in a pump-and-dump scenario, most of your sexual encounters will probably begin with some foreplay.

The skills that you’re going to want to demonstrate during foreplay will include kissing, nipple play, cock-sucking, and rimming.

If you want to demonstrate some next-level cock-sucking – and also show off your yoga moves – you could try impressing your guy with a Kneeling 69. Have him kneel – facing you – then you do a headstand so that your cock ends up in his mouth, and you can wrap your lips around his cock. This position takes the basic 69 and adds more difficulty and physicality.

If you’ve got a gay threesome going down, you might want to pull out the Rim Sandwich. Let’s say you’ll get fucked, and you’ve got two Tops working you over to get you loose and ready. A Rim Sandwich is when they both simultaneously put their tongues to work on your ass. I’m not totally sure which components of this position equate to the key elements of a sandwich, but the main thing is that you’ve got two tongues slurping on your fuck-hole. Heaven.

But First, What Are Some Classic Gay Men’s Sex Positions?

Okay, we get it; you aren’t basic; you crave simplicity. So, before we get to the super-creative, contort-your-body-and-your-bussy style positions below, it would be shameful, not to mention the sex classics.

Classic gay male sex positions include the missionary position, doggy style, and cowgirl (or reverse cowgirl/cowboy if you’re feeling just an inkling of cleverness). These positions allow for deep penetration and intimate connection between partners without needing to scratch your head in confusion. Plus, likely, you’ve already seen these on a classic cable show sex scene at least once!

Another exciting option is the standing position, where one partner leans against a wall or furniture while the other penetrates from behind. This position can add a sense of adventure and spontaneity to your sex life.

For those looking to add some kink to their sex life, we also recommend some light gay bondage, such as ropes or blindfolds, without needing to change the fucking positions. But we may be getting a little too fresh here. Let’s continue to the ultimate humping positions for those seeking spice.

Best Position Without a Bed Available

There’s nothing wrong with having sex on a bed, but it’s often fun to mark your territory by fucking in every room of the house.

Fucking on the floor

The Cowboy is a good option if you’re getting it on while on the floor. There are a few variations on the Cowboy, but essentially you’ve got the Top lying on his back on the floor while the Bottom sits on top and pole-drives himself onto the Top’s hard cock.

Fucking on the armchair

If you’ve invested in a solid armchair (sorry, Ikea), it will make a great prop for your fuck sessions. Doggy style is a good starting point. Have the Bottom kneel on the armchair – face pressed into the back of the chair. The Top can then grab hold of the back of the armchair and use it for leverage as he pounds his cock into the Bottom’s fuck-hole.

Fucking in the kitchen

Showcase your state-of-the-art kitchen on your Alt – whether it’s the kitchen island or a sturdy kitchen table, make meal times more interesting by demonstrating the Standing Doggy style. In this one, if you’re the Top, you’re going to bend the Bottom forward over the table of the kitchen island and then fuck him from behind.

Keep the olive oil handy in case you need to add some grease.

Intimate Gay Sex Positions

The good thing about having a range of sexual positions you’re confident deploying is that you can tailor your performance to the situation. Being fucked down in a sex sling or cruising washrooms for a quick fuck is going to require different positions than if you’re spending the night with a guy that you’re really into.

So, if you’re trying to convince a guy that you’re worth getting to know, let’s take a look at some of the sex positions that deliver maximum intimacy while you’re getting it on.

Pearly Gates

For this one, the Top is on his back. The Bottom sits on the Top’s cock and then lays back against the Top’s chest. In this position, the Top is gently thrusting and fucking his cock into the Bottom while holding the Bottom in his arms. You can also maneuver yourselves so that you can kiss while you’re fucking. This is a nice one.

Inverse Missionary

For this one, the Top is on his back. The Bottom straddles the Top and lowers himself onto the Top’s cock – so that you’re face to face. In this position, you get plenty of eye contact, plenty of kissing, and a nice gentle fuck as the Bottom rides the Top’s thrusting cock.

Gay Sex Positions for Those Who Like it “Risky”

In this context, the ‘risk’ we’re talking about isn’t anything to do with STI prevention – it’s about how flexible you are and how far you can push your body to maximize your pleasure.

Headstand Rimjob

This is generally done because the Top is sitting on a chair, and the Bottom does a headstand into position so that the Bottom’s ass ends up in the Top’s face.

Circle Serpent

This one requires some flexibility from the Top. There are a number of positions that can be used to present the Circle Serpent opportunity, but the technique is that the Top is simultaneously fucking the Bottom and sucking the Bottom’s cock.

Aerial Rimjob

For this one, you need the Bottom to be able to hold himself up in the air – maybe using some gym equipment – and he can then present his ass to be rimmed by the Top.

Reverse Wheelbarrow

Again, this requires a flexible Bottom. There are a couple of ways to get into this position, but the goal is to end up with the Top standing and the Bottom doing a handstand facing away from the Top. The Top can then support the Bottom by holding his legs while fucking him.

Last One: What’s that one with Arms Pulled Back Doggy Style Gay Sex Position?

That’s a good question, and we’re not too sure ourselves; we know it’s hot and a great way to restrain your partner while plowing their brains out.

For those who love doggy style, here are a couple more positions before we sign off:

• A classic: the “Fire Hydrant position,” one partner lifts their leg while the other slides their leg under them for deeper penetration while kneeling on the floor or bed.
• The “Restroom Attendant position” is great for bathroom sex, with the bottom supporting themselves on the sink for deeper penetration; just be careful you try with a full-fledged vanity, as the fucking power could take out the pedestal sink, which is a great story, but a horrible remodel that you can avoid.
• Netflix and Chill? The “Couch Surfer position” is the one Friends episode where one partner leans over the side of the couch while the other penetrates from behind. 

Which are your favourite sex positions? Which positions do you find the most impressive? Slide into the comments below and get verbal about what you’re into.