If you’re a guy who usually has sex with women, but you’re a bit bi-curious – at some stage, you’re probably going to want to explore that side of your sexuality and get a taste of a bit of man-on-man action.
A while back, we covered how to prepare for male sex for the first time – that’s a good grounding for everyone. This time around, we’re going to focus on bi-curious guys who want to get into the guy-on-guy game.
For lots of reasons, crossing that line can be a pretty big deal for a lot of guys. Turning those fantasies into reality may seem like a great idea when you’re horned-up, but how do you know that it’s something that you really want to follow through on? How do you even go about getting your hands on some dick?
How do I know if I should have a Bi experience with another male?
If this is a question that you’re pondering, it’s fairly likely that your dick is telling you what you want and your brain is in catch-up mode.
Human sexuality is fairly complex. What’s increasingly clear is that trying to label everything into neat little boxes isn’t particularly helpful for anyone.
If you find yourself watching porn and looking at what the bisexual male porn stars are doing, if you’re checking out other guys in the locker-room, if you’ve created a profile on gay dating websites just to see what they’re all about, or if you’re exploring some ass-play and wondering how to take it a bit further, you’re probably going to be wondering what would happen if you got naked with another dude.
That doesn’t automatically make you gay, or bisexual, or anything else – it just means that you’re a guy who has sexual needs and that you’re open to exploring your options.
That’s cool. Just because you’re thinking about it doesn’t mean that it has to happen, but if you’re consciously open to the prospect of a bit of guy-fun then there’s plenty of ways in which you can scratch that itch.
Can I keep my bisexual experiences with other guys on the down-low?
Exploring your sexual fantasies is a lot of fun, and sometimes it can enhance the excitement to know that you’ve got some sexy secrets – that no one knows what you’re getting up to on the side.
That may be a bit complicated if you’re in a relationship of some kind. When there’s other people involved – such as a wife or a girlfriend – then it’s healthy to take their emotional needs into consideration as you embark on your sexual explorations.
You may be in the kind of relationship where your partner will be totally up for exploring some bisexual encounters with you. Or it may be a bit of a deal-breaker. That’s something that you’re going to need to figure out and navigate – if you can do that upfront then that’s a lot more straightforward than having to explain after the fact why you’ve been dicking down dudes on the down-low.
How can I meet guys for some man-on-man bisexual experiences?
While the golden age of cruising may be in the past, there’s still plenty of adult bookstores and truck-stops where it’s easy enough to find other guys who are up for mutual jerking off or a bit of fun through the glory holes.
Cruising options are popular with guys who are looking for sex with other men but wanting to keep it all fairly anonymous and transactional. Log onto Squirt.org and browse our Cruise Now feature to find a local gay park cruising spot.
With GPS technology, you can find the hottest spots men are looking to hookup at right now; or, if you plan on travelling, you can use the filter search to pick specific countries, cities and neighbourhoods where you can find well-known hookup spots to have your first male encounter without anyone knowing.
Bathhouses, gay saunas, and sex-on-premises venues are also a good starting point. Everyone is here to get off, and you can get the job done without a lot of conversation.
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Hook-up apps such as Squirt.org are not only a great way to pinpoint cruising opportunities, you can also connect with other guys who want to explore their bisexual side, or gay guys who will be more than happy to give you a taste of some man-on-man action.
Online dating platforms include features such as IM chat, video chat rooms and plenty of other ways to engage with other guys. You can sign-up to Squirt.org for free so you can start exploring all of the sexual options available to you.
What if I’m nervous about having sex with another guy?
We’re at our most vulnerable when we’re putting ourselves into sexual situations – especially if it’s your first time or if you’re exploring something that you’re still a bit uncertain about.
How you handle that depends a bit on the context. If you’re one-on-one with another guy, it’s better to be honest about your lack of experience. No one is going to think less of you, asking for a bit of patience and understanding will ensure that you’re on the same page and moving at the same pace.
If you’re at a cruising spot or somewhere like a bathhouse, you might want to just sit back a bit and get a feel for how things work. No one is going to pressure you into doing something that you’re not ready to do – you might just observe for the first couple of times. Take your time, there’s no rush.
Generally, your body will know what to do. If you’re turned on, your cock will be hard and your instincts will kick in. However, if you’re still mentally processing whether exploring bisexual encounters with guys is something you should be doing, you may not get hard and you may not come. That happens a lot – it doesn’t mean anything, just that maybe you need a bit more time to figure yourself out.
What if I’m not sure whether I’m gay or bisexual?
It’s best not to overthink this kind of stuff. Do a bit of reading and you’ll quickly see that human sexuality is complex and there’s still lots that we don’t know about what shapes our desires.
Don’t start with a label and try to fit yourself into that box. Start with what makes you feel good. Give yourself permission to grow and evolve – don’t be constrained by other people’s perception of you.
If you’re fantasising about a bit of guy-on-guy action, what’s stopping you from making those fantasies a reality?
