When it comes to experiencing hot guy sex, you may think “going deeper” means one thing and one thing only. But when it comes to tantric massage, “deep” is more about the mind and spiritual connection that can occur when a sensual, all-body massage happens between two people. From the history of tantra, tips and tricks to be the best hands-on experience with a stranger or someone you care for fondly, this article goes into what you need to know to take yourself on this next spiritual adventure!

The History of Gay Tantra

Tantra is a bit of a catch-all term that is generally used to describe the ancient traditions of meditation that focus on energy and consciousness.

In simple terms, the practice of Tantra is about embracing life, but we generally associate Tantra with intimacy and sex.

Being able to engage with the traditions of Tantra and benefit from Tantric practices such as mediation isn’t limited in any way by your sexuality, but it’s fair to say that gay men have been particularly enthusiastic at embracing the opportunities that Tantra provides to get naked and get intimate with each other. Anything that might involve a gay nude massage, we’re in!

It was in the late-60s in the US that Tantra retreats and workshops specifically designed for gay men began to emerge.

Today, there’s a wealth of opportunities – both online and in-person – through which you can explore the world of Tantra and discover ways in which focusing on your energy and consciousness can really boost your sex-life and maximise your pleasure.

How is a Tantric Gay Massage Different from Other Massages?

When someone describes their massage technique as Tantric Massage, it’s a way of applying some of the principles of Tantric meditation into a massage experience.

There’s not really any strict rules about what constitutes a Tantric Massage, it depends on the interpretation of the person who is giving the massage.

As a general rule, a Tantric Massage is going to be more intimate and erotic than other types of massage.

If you’re two gay guys, and the offer of a Tantric Massage is on the table, then you’d expect to get naked and be ready to get aroused. It’s not essential for the masseur to also be naked, but it’s fairly common that they would be. Your masseur’s hands are going to be all over every inch of your body. There’s no pressure on anyone for there to be a happy ending, but it wouldn’t be a surprise if the massage climaxed with a big orgasm.

Tips and Methods for Tantric Massage for Men

There’s no hard and fast rules about what makes a great gay Tantric Massage – it all comes down to what works best for you both.

Remember, the focus is on the massage. Sure, if it ends up with a bit of hot guy sex, then that’s awesome. But start with the massage.

A good starting point is to think about the environment or the ambience of the massage. You want to be in a quiet room, somewhere you’re private where you’re not going to be disturbed. Ideally, you want to be able to control the light – you don’t have to light candles, but just being able to dim the lights and draw the blinds is helpful. You also want it to be warm – remember, you’re both going to be naked.

A good quality massage oil is fairly essential for a successful Tantric Massage session. Being able to heat the oil is helpful – even if that’s just putting the bottle of oil on top of the radiator for a bit. Don’t hold back on the oil – you want every inch of skin to be greased up and glistening.

From there, the essential ingredient is communication. You don’t have to use a lot of words, but if you’re giving the massage, make sure that you’re regularly giving gentle verbal prompts such as: “Is that okay?” “Does that feel good?”

If you’re receiving the massage, let your masseur know how he’s doing – a few well-placed moans will go a long way to ensuring that you’re both on the right track for maximum pleasure.

How to Enjoy Tantric Massage as a Receiver

If you’re lucky enough to find someone who offers you a Tantric Massage, you want to ensure that you’re in the right head-space for the experience.

You’re going to be getting naked. It’s a good idea to be feeling fresh and ready for that. This is not a time for body hang-ups – your masseur is going to be getting very well acquainted with every bit of your body. If you’re worried about what you look like when you’re lying on the massage table, that’s going to kill the mood for both of you.

Try and really be in the moment of the experience. That means trying to clear your head of all your day-to-day stresses – a good technique to help you do that is to really focus on your breathing. Be really conscious of taking big, deep breaths until all you can think about is how good you’re feeling as his warm hands glide up and down your oiled-up body.

If you’re receiving a Tantric Massage, the focus is all on you. You might want to give some mutual pleasure to your masseur – such as stroking his cock or sucking his cock – but it’s good to check with the masseur before you get started as to whether that’s something that’s on the table.

A massage that comes with a happy ending is great, but don’t feel any pressure that you have to cum. If you’re focused on making sure that you cum at the right time, that can detract from the overall experience of the massage. Just try and relax and let whatever happens happen.

Finding a Partner Using the Gay Chat Apps

Whether you are looking for someone to give you a massage or you’re someone who likes giving massages, put the technology to work and connect with other guys.

On Squirt.org, and other gay meet apps, you can use your profile to list whether you’re into receiving or giving massages. If you let people know that you’re up for exploring a bit of Tantric Massage then that’s a definite conversation starter right there.

Whether you’re experienced at Tantric Massage or not, we’re always ready to heat up the oil and get naked.

Written by Gareth Johnson

While the name of the event kind of gives you all the information you need to know, we just want to make sure that Lazy Bear Week is on your radar.

This annual event has been held in Guerneville, California, since 1996. The dates for 2023 are 31 July until 7 August.

It is a week-long celebration of big boys with bounce – the programme includes pool parties and dancing as well as plenty of time for just lazing around and relaxing.

Interested? Let’s get into the details.

How Can I Best Prepare for a Gay Bear Getaway?

Pack Appropriately

As it’s a summer event, you might be thinking that all you’ll need is a speedo, sunglasses, and a floppy hat. However, the weather in Guerneville during August can be hot during the day and cool at night, so you’re going to want to pack some versatility in your suitcase.

While flip-flops and a smile will take you a long way, make sure that you bring some comfortable shoes so you can do a bit of exploring if you’re feeling adventurous.

Depending on who you meet during the event, you might be invited to an evening soiree or a smart barbecue – so you’re going to need options.

Plan Around Your Other Gay Bear Vacations

Summer is a busy season for boozy bear-filled parties – you might already have events in your calendar such as Bear Week in Stiges or Key West Bear Weekend in 2023 – there’s no shortage of gay bear weekends for beefy boys. You might need a spreadsheet to make sure that you’re not double-booking yourself and that you’re allocating your vacation time wisely.

Cruising for Sex Between Parties and Fun

One of your main priorities at an event such as Lazy Bear Week is probably going to be to meet new friends and network – as well as have as much sex as you can handle.

While nothing beats a bit of in-person cruising, maximise your strike rate and put the technology to work with Squirt.org – enhance your gay cruising potential on your mobile phone to ensure no hairy gay males escape your sights.

What Are the Key Events in Lazy Bear Week?

Pool Parties

Always popular during Lazy Bear Week are the pool parties. It’s not hard to imagine why – a sunny day, beefy guys stripped down, everyone bopping to some tunes. It’s pretty much gay heaven, right?

There’s a pool party every day, kicking off mid-morning and running all the way through to early evening. Are you ready to make a splash?

Dance Parties

The River Sunset Tea Dance is one of the high-points of Lazy Bear Week, but there’s no shortage of high-energy dance parties to get you moving and grooving until you can’t move or groove any more.

Food and Drink

Any decent Bear-fest puts food front-and-centre and Lazy Bear Week ensures that its men are well-fed.

There’s the daily Bear Buzz Coffee Social plus the Ice-cream Social, and the full range of dining options from casual to formal. Plus lots of local wineries and breweries to explore.

What Other Events Can Gay Males Do in Guerneville, California?

Aside from Lazy Bear Week, there are plenty of other events and activities that gay males can enjoy in Guerneville, California.

There are hiking trails, kayaking and canoeing, and the nearby Armstrong Redwoods State Natural Reserve for outdoor enthusiasts. If you’re interested in history, Fort Ross is worth a visit.

Additionally, the nearby town of Occidental offers a thriving art scene and some good shopping opportunities.

Or you can just be a lazy bear and soak up the local vibe. Whatever works for you.

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Which Bear events are at the top of your travel wish-list? Jump into our comments below and let us know your plans!

Written by Gareth Johnson