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3 Gay Dating App Rules to Maximum Hookups (and Respect) in 2026

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While we’re all in favour of a good gay dating app to meet guys – let’s be real, how else are we going to line up hot and horny hookups – the integration of technology into our sex lives seems to be having some unintended consequences.

Although much of our evidence has been gathered from hanging out in bars, flirting at the gay cruising club, and chats with the regulars at our local gay cruising spot, our research suggests that hook-up app culture is reshaping how we connect and interact with each other in real life.

Is this a problem? Let’s get into it.

Threesome at the Travelsplooge

Why talk about gay dating and hookup etiquette in 2026?

Full disclosure – we’ve got a vested interest in online dating. We’re Squirt.org – we pay our bills by helping guys connect through our gay dating and gay chat platform.

But we’re also part of the queer community – always have been, always will be. We want to help men use the technology to find the intimacy that we all need. We want to help men have great sex. We want to help men have the sex that they want to have.

What we’re hearing is that queer men seem to be blurring the distinction between online behaviour and real-life behaviour.

What that could look like – in simple terms – is that the more transactional approach to hooking up that we see in online spaces is starting to feel like the norm, even when you’re face-to-face with someone who you might be interested in getting naked with.

This can leave everyone involved feeling awkward, frustrated, and isolated. 

We hear a lot about the male loneliness epidemic – awkward in-person interactions are a symptom of that. If you’re struggling to connect with other guys in real-life situations, you soon stop trying and you retreat to online spaces where you feel safer navigating your virtual connections.

What can we do about it? Hook-up app culture is learned behaviour. We can choose to behave differently. That’s easier said than done, but here’s some suggestions on how to regain control and more effectively connect with guys in real life.

1. Get Back Your Casual Confrontation Skills 

No matter who you are – a gay dude, a bisexual man, or a horny straight guy – you’ve probably been ghosted by someone that you thought you’d made a solid online connection with.

Being on the receiving end of the block option on gay dating sites can feel brutal, but somehow it’s better than being ghosted – the guy you were chatting with has just vanished and you’re left wondering if you’ve said something wrong or unintentionally revealed a deal-breaking red flag.

Hook-up app culture has taught us how to read ghosting behaviour. A no-reply means no, right?

But what if you’re encountering ghosting in the real world? You invite your friends to meet up for birthday drinks – if they don’t bother to reply, is that just their way of declining? Your ex suggests meeting up for brunch – if you don’t reply, will he get the message?

Regain Control

If you feel like someone is ghosting you in real life, don’t be passive about it. Communicate clearly what your expectations are. If someone isn’t responding to you in a meaningful way, it’s okay to point that out.

A direct approach is generally best. “Hey, it feels like you’re ghosting me…” is a straightforward way of calling out the behaviour in a non-aggressive way.

The alternative of “if I don’t hear back from you then I’ll assume you can’t make it” is a bit passive-aggressive and enables the behaviour that’s annoying you.

2. Reading the Room on Your Sexual Escapades

Do you feel uncomfortable when your friends are talking about their sex-lives? Does it feel like every conversation that you have revolve around gay threesomes, orgies, and gay sex parties?

It’s not that it’s bad to talk about sex but it’s the way that we’re talking about sex. Hook-up app culture has taught us that sexual encounters are currency. If we’re having a lot of sex then that’s validation. Being desired is how we measure our worth. Our self-esteem is driven by our load-count.

If all your friends want to talk about is how many guys they’ve fucked, how many orgies they’ve been invited to, how many pump-and-dump notches on their belt they’ve collected, it’s a flex. It’s a way of reassuring themselves that their sexual currency validates their place in the world. It’s not an authentic conversation – it’s a one-way broadcast to try to numb the gnawing uncertainty about their purpose in life.

Regain Control

Don’t try and stop your friends talking about their sexual conquests – let them get their validation – but add some reflective questions into the conversation. A simple “how did that make you feel?” can direct the load-count bragging into a more authentic space.

Avoid any sense of competition with your friends. If they’re having a lot of sex, that’s great, but look for opportunities to remind them that you value their friendship beyond the hyper-sexual exploits that they’re broadcasting on social media. 

It can feel like hard work and you may find that some of your friends are determined to be basic fuck-boys, but if you allow yourself to be vulnerable with your friends you may be able to demonstrate to them that it’s safe for them to be vulnerable with you.

3. Revive Your Gay Cruising Skills and Flirting Techniques

Old-school cruising relies on eye-contact and body-language. But walk in to any bar, club or gay circuit party and you’ll pretty much everyone is on their phone. Not only are they on their phone looking at whatever, they’re generally scrolling through their hook-up app swiping on profile pics instead of trying to make a connection with the guys that they’re in the room with. We’re losing the culture of gay cruising language.

Your phone becomes a barrier to everyone around you. You may see it as a coping mechanism for your social anxiety, but it only serves to further isolate you and undermine your confidence.

Regain Control

Set yourself some limits. It makes sense to check your apps on arrival at a venue – maybe one of your regular fuck-buds is there or someone that you’ve been chatting with. Once you’ve got all of the information that you need from your phone, put it away.

Position yourself in spaces that facilitate interaction with others. Standing at a bar is a great way to meet guys. The queue for the toilet is a classic. 

Challenge yourself to make eye contact with other guys. You don’t have to say anything to them – let your body do the talking. Avoid giving off serial-killer vibes by smiling with your eyes – smizing is the industry term for it.

Don’t overthink it. If a guy that you’re into doesn’t respond to the signals that you’re sending, it’s not the end of the world. Your self-worth is not measured by how many dicks you’ve sucked on a night out.

Explore Gay Cruising Beach, Playa de los Muertos, in Puerto Vallarta, México

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Tracey Parker is a gay cruising fanatic who travels around the world, always sharing stories of hot hookups and anonymous sex. After sharing a hot gay sauna in Puerto Vallarta, Tracey takes us to another gay cruising location in Mexico and the Zona Romantica section of PV, a beach where hookups are horny and guys cruise deep into the night after the bars close.

The magnificent full moon hung over the Pacific, illuminating the dark water and the sands of Playa de Los Muertos. My head was still thumping to the rhythm of the dance music from the gay bars that line the streets of Puerto Vallarta; I was in town for a friend’s birthday, trying to “go with the flow” for as long as I could stand it. The beach was calling to me. Puerto Vallarta always has such beautiful weather and beaches are understated treasures of the country’s region.

As soon as I reached the shoreline, I noticed men dispersed across the sand, lurking in the shadows. I was ninety percent sure I knew what they were doing, and I was determined to find out for certain. I picked a vantage point where I could see everything—listening to the rhythmic crash of the waves while watching figures drift from solitary spots to approach one another.

In the distance, two men drew near. Their brisk pace slowed as the gap closed, until they were standing chest-to-chest, staring into each other’s eyes. It felt as though an invisible web connected us all, a shared pulse that made us move in ways unrecognizable to the “real world” or the frantic bars nearby. They reached into each other’s pants for a moment before disappearing together toward the hotel zone.

“Hello, güero,” a voice said in English from behind me. I knew the greeting was for me. In Mexico, the term is used for anyone with light skin; it’s a friendly, respectful gesture that can be quite flirty if the intent is there.

I turned to find a young Mexican man with long, curly hair. He wore an orange tank top and pastel blue shorts, accessorized with a wooden necklace and worn friendship bracelets. He was lean and striking, with a pretty smile he was using boldly to show his interest. He was exactly my type.

We exchanged pleasantries and fell into an easy conversation. I wanted to ask him everything about the local gay cruising scene—it wasn’t overly explicit, and most pairs seemed to vanish quickly—but as we spoke, the focus remained entirely on us. I didn’t want to change the subject.

As we talked, he reached into my pants, his fingers curling around me. I looked down; he had sat beside me with his legs crossed, and I could see he was already straining against the fabric of his shorts, his cock eager to feel release from the fabric prison. 

He told me he had a room up the hill and asked if I wanted to spend some time with him. I paused for a heartbeat, then told him I’d love to. We left the beach together, following the silent tradition of the couples I’d watched over the last hour.

As we climbed the stairs behind the Zona Romántica, the neighborhood became more local and the view more expansive. I hadn’t even known these stairs existed. I had gone to the beach to escape the bar scene, but I never expected to find myself this far removed. I liked the world he was introducing me to.

His room was small and warm. He opened the window and pulled his shirt off immediately, allowing a cool breeze to flood the space as we gazed out at the lights of Puerto Vallarta shimmering below. 

His bed took up most of the room. There was a larger bed next to it where his brother slept, but he assured me he worked late at a bar. Their schedules were complementary; they each had the small space to themselves during the day, only truly sharing it for sleep.

He leaned back against the wall in a way that suggested this was his habitual spot. Crossing his legs “Indian style” as he had on the beach, he let himself pop out from the bottom of his shorts again. I lay on my stomach and wrapped my hands around his narrow waist, massaging his stomach with my thumbs. He had a musky, natural scent that made my blood run hot.

I delicately moved the fabric of his shorts aside like a pair of curtains. He was long, thick, and curved slightly to one side. A neat trim of dark hair surrounded him, all of it seeming to point toward the center, urging me forward. I looked up at his face; his expression said the same. To clear any lingering doubt, he gave me a small smile and a nod.

I took him into my mouth, my lips moving softly. A sigh of pleasure escaped him, encouraging me. I gripped his base and moved slowly, exploring every curve of him.

Eventually, he whispered that he wanted to be inside me. I was still fully dressed, so I stripped quickly. He followed suit, kicking off his shorts effortlessly while remaining leaned against the wall. He slid down until he was horizontal, and I moved to sit on top of him. We both used a bit of saliva to prepare ourselves. I braced my hands against the wall and looked down; his face was a mask of concentration as he guided himself to me.

He pressed against me, meeting my eyes. I began to open up, slowly lowering myself. I winced at the initial stretch, but he inched further and further inside until, with a final push, he was all the way in. We both let out a deep, synchronized moan. We stayed like that for a long time—no frantic thrusting, no pornographic theatrics. We just felt the breeze across our skin and the slow, internal glide of our bodies. He reached for his phone and put on some low, sexy music, and we moved together in silence.

Casi me llega,” he whispered—he was close. I had been on the verge for a while myself. I rose onto my knees, letting him slip out, and knelt so we were chest-to-chest.

My perspective shifted then. I imagined what we looked like from outside the window to a silent spectator—much like I had been watching the cruisers on the beach. How strange we must have appeared: two naked men, limbs tangled, features strained with focus, no longer aware of the room or each other, completely submerged in the internal fantasies required to reach the finish line.

We began to pant, our breathing growing heavy until we finally came. Once we finished and began to catch our breath, he was slick with the evidence of our encounter. He didn’t seem in any hurry to clean up, even as it dripped onto the sheets. He simply put his hands behind his head and looked up at me with what looked like genuine admiration.

I reached for a discarded shirt on the bed and asked if I could clean him up. He murmured a “yes” without even looking to see what garment I had grabbed. As his heartbeat finally settled, I gazed over his body, carefully wiping the fluids away, savoring the quiet aftermath of the hill above the sea.

Seductive stranger sex is LIFE! w/ Dmitry Osten, Gabriel Ryder

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ASGMAX: When Gabriel Ryder is exploring Madrid on his vacation, he passes by a seductive stranger, Dmitry Osten. It doesn’t take long for the two to go someplace private to explore each other’s bodies.

https://x.com/ASGmaxOfficial/status/2006129807969407283?s=20

Who would you cruise? Jericho James, Adam Lee… or both?

RAGING STALLION: Ripped outdoorsmen Jericho James and Adam Lee are supposed to be focusing on the grill, but they’ve got some other meat on the minds! After stripping down to reveal his ripped and hairy body, Jericho takes a mouthful of Adam’s big dick and bends over to be fucked from behind. The surrounding untamed forest fills with the sounds of bareback sex as the muscle daddies continue their rugged outdoor hookup until they’re fully satisfied and emptying their balls.

UMMMMMM… WOW!!!!!!!!!

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Harrison Feels fucks Occitan Prince

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ADULT TIME: Two broke jock roommates (Harrison Feels and Occitan Prince) have decided to cancel all their subscriptions to save money… except for their coveted Adult Time subscription, of course!

But since they only have one account and Adult Time doesn’t allow account sharing… they start bickering over who gets to jerk off when. At a standstill, they come up with flimsy justifications to share one of their phones and jerk off side by side, which is totally not gay since they’ll be watching straight porn!

They get so turned on, however, that they take things much further than either of them ever expected… leading to some very naughty sex.

Adam Lee fucks Angel Santana

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ADULT TIME: When a jock college soccer player, Adam Lee, pulls his hamstring mid-game, he’s brought into the locker room by a sports medicine student, Angel Santana, for a quick hamstring massage. The massage works, alleviating his injury, but it also causes Adam to get a boner!

https://x.com/SammmyButler/status/2005623306364526668?s=20

Adam definitely can’t go back to the game like this, so he decides to jerk off to get rid of his boner, even convincing Angel to jerk off with him.

But when even THAT doesn’t work, Adam further convinces Angel to give him a blowjob to speed up the process. The helpful Angel accepts, willing to do whatever it takes to get this player back on the field.

Dirty 30 Bareback Birthday! w/ Beau Butler, Reign, Isaac X, Jake Nicola, Austin Avery, Lucca Mazzy, Max Konnor

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FALCON STUDIOS: Turning the big 3-0 doesn’t mean that you must leave behind all the bareback hookups and wild orgies from your 20s and this ‘Dirty 30 Bareback Birthday’ proves it. Award-winning director Tony Dimarco is bringing together eight insatiable hunks for a birthday bash where the dress code only requires you to wear your birthday suit and a face full of your best friend’s fresh load. Beau Butler thinks that boyfriend Cole Connor is taking him away for a quiet couple of days filled with froyo and snuggles, but what he doesn’t know is that all his best friends are waiting to surprise him with a cum-filled weekend getaway.

https://x.com/SammmyButler/status/2005266783213875567?s=20

Who would you cruise? Trevor Brooks, Daniel Evans… or both?

ACTIVE DUTY: Locker Room Cruiser – It’s just guys being guys, having fun on base. Whether it’s DL hookups in the showers, or sneaky after-hours fuck sessions at the dorms, these guys aren’t afraid to let loose and have some fun with each other’s holes and poles.

Trevor Brooks has been dealing with being away from his family and wife for months. Sexually, he is backed up beyond belief and now that he’s on base and staying in the barracks, he has no clue how the other guys ‘blow off steam’. That is until he finds out that there is a certain time when the locker rooms are purposely damn near empty and the men on base are able to let loose.

https://x.com/ASGmaxOfficial/status/2005788942415679539?s=20

UMMM… WOW!

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