How’s your head? Chances are, there might have been some complaints.
None of us want to hold our hands up and admit that we’re not very good at giving head – surely, sucking cock is something we should take to like a duck to water?
If you want to get better at oral sex, a good starting point is to understand your body. If the prospect of getting your throat fucked is more stressful than sexy, your gag reflex will likely be the issue.
A sensitive gag reflex is nothing to be embarrassed about – we’ve all got our specialties when it comes to sex – but if you want to get better at giving head, we’re here to help.
In this article, we’re going to get into it – and we’re going to use lots of photos of guys sucking cock to demonstrate the skills we’re aspiring to.
What is a gag reflex?
A gag reflex is the body’s natural reaction to something foreign or potentially harmful going down the throat. It’s a reflex meant to protect the body from choking. When the gag reflex is triggered, it causes the muscles in the throat to contract.
Gagging or feeling like you’re about to throw up is a perfectly natural reaction when someone tries to shove their cock into the back of your throat – your body is doing exactly what it is supposed to.
For some people, the gag reflex can be particularly sensitive. Even the thought of having a cock in your mouth can be enough to trigger some guys.
How do the cocksucking experts do it? How can you get your throat fucked without throwing up? Some people might be blessed with a gag reflex that is not so sensitive, but mostly it’s practice.
Having a less sensitive gag reflex can mean longer blowjobs, harder cumshots from your partner and a mind-blowing oral sex experience that leaves everyone happy.
What is the science behind a sensitive gag reflex?
There doesn’t seem to be any definitive reason why some people have a more sensitive gag reflex than others – there’s a whole range of things that could influence how your throat reacts when being threatened with a hard cock.
If your airways are susceptible to obstruction – because of a sinus infection or being a smoker, or if your mouth palate is just naturally narrow, there are many reasons why some guys might be at a bit of a disadvantage when trying to give the best blowjob.
How can I relax my throat muscles to give better head?
Dentists have been at the forefront of this work. We look to dentists not because they’re experts at cocksucking – although we are prepared to research that question – but because dentists are always sticking things in peoples’ mouths and having to deal with their gag reflex.
One of the easiest techniques dentists recommend is using a soft toothbrush to slowly brush your tongue. Doing this over time – and trying to brush as far back as possible – should gradually help you to desensitise your gag reflex.
Complicating matters is that your gag reflex can be triggered emotionally or psychologically – not just physically. If thinking about choking makes you want to choke – or if you start gagging when you think about sucking cock – then you’ve probably got some trauma that needs to be addressed.
Technique 1: Breathing exercises
When going down on a cock, focus on your breathing and keep in mind the control of your breath through your nostrils.
If you approach the blowjob worried that you might suffocate on that fat dick, you’re more susceptible to the anxiety that comes with that. Focusing on your breathing reminds you that you’re getting all the air you need through your nose, and you can keep the panic attack and the gag reflex at bay.
Technique 2: Sensory adaptation
Sensory adaptation is a psychological term to describe how we adjust to sensory changes.
If you allow yourself to suck the cock slowly and eventually take more and more, it will feel less intense and may help not to trigger your gag reflex during fellatio.
Rather than trying to choke down that cock entirely in one go like your favourite pornstar, pacing yourself and taking each inch slowly will help.
It’s a bit like being fucked by a big cock – you take it slowly, you let your body adjust, and you build up to a steady increase in intensity. You don’t go straight to pound-town.
Technique 3: Erotic hypnosis
There is gay audio hypnosis available that is all about honing in on your inner slut, making you crave cock-sucking through the power of persuasion.
While the limited amount of research on hypnosis means we don’t have a lot of certainty on its effectiveness, it might just be the trick you need to unlock your need for a thick hard cock tickling your tonsils.
Still Not a Gay Deepthroat Master? Don’t Sweat It.
Still can’t get your mouth around that girthy cock without thinking about choking? Don’t sweat it. Loads of the nerve endings that send pleasure signals from the penis are in the tip of the cock – going down all the way to the base isn’t essential to get your man off.
Fucking someone’s throat is also a bit of a power play. Some guys totally get off making a cocksucker choke and sputter when giving head – it kind of reinforces their sense of dominance and physically demonstrates how massive their huge cock is. Your sensitive gag reflex could be a perfect match if that’s his kink.
It bears repeating that sucking cock is just one of the things that guys can do to get each other off – it’s not essential. If it’s not your thing, impress him with your other skills. Maybe it’s rimming? Maybe it’s fisting? Maybe it’s some kind of taboo role-play fetish? Let’s explore all of the options.
