Whether you’re revving the engine for a good old-fashioned gay ass pounding or want to experience better ass eating, rimming can be a great way to create pleasure and fun.
If you’re nervous about rimming a gay man or just don’t know where to start, our handy guide will show you the ropes and help you get a taste of how to start having some rimming fun.
The Basics of a Gay Rim Job
What is Ass Rimming?
Ass rimming is when you stick your face between a guy’s butt cheeks and put your mouth to work on his hole.
The technical term is anilingus.
Ass Rimming isn’t something that’s limited by sexuality – you can rim anyone with an ass – but it’s the gays that have pretty much mastered the art of guy-on-guy butt-munching.
What Makes a Gay Rimjob Feel So Good?
There’s not a lot of science behind it, but your butt is a pretty sensitive part of the body – there are lots of nerve-endings involved – and it feels fantastic to have someone stick their tongue up there for a bit of gay sex rimming.
It’s also a lot of fun giving a guy a rimjob – you’re intimately connecting with him, and you can feel the pleasure you’re giving him.
What Does a Rimjob Feel Like?
It depends a bit whether your guy knows what he’s doing, but a good rimjob should feel like he’s making out with your ass – his tongue is hitting your pleasure points and making you feel good over.
If he’s inexperienced but enthusiastic, it might feel like a pig snuffling for truffles in your butt – which isn’t necessarily bad.
A bad rimjob is when the guy doesn’t know what he’s doing down there and isn’t that into it. That’s just awkward for everyone.
Top Tip 1: Keep It Clean – Douching and Diet
Sure, some guys have a gay kink for butts that aren’t minty fresh, but – as a general rule – one of the assumptions of the rimming experience is that you’re going to be clean.
That doesn’t mean you have to douche, but given that rimming is generally a prelude to a solid dick-down, you might want to err on the safe side and get that job done – check out our guide to douching if you need a refresher course.
At the very least, you will want to shower before asking someone to stick their tongue up your butt.
Even if your guy is into rimming hairy ass and wants to taste your sweat, give your butt a good soaping so that you’re feeling clean and confident.
If you’re getting fucked regularly, you’ll understand how your diet plays a somewhat crucial role in how the body responds to anal sex. Most people find that a diet high in fibre helps to keep everything moving and helps to reduce the time you need to spend douching.
Top Tip 2: Focus on your technique – think breath, tongue and taint
There’s more to rimming than just spreading his cheeks and sticking your tongue in.
If you think about rimming as being the prelude to anal sex, you’re objective is to relax your man’s hole – to get him loose, opened up, and ready for more.
Everyone’s body is different, so you’ll need to try a few different approaches to find what works best, but you’re generally going to be hitting his hole with a combination of breath, tongue and taint to deliver him maximum rimming pleasure.
Inexperienced rimmings tend to focus on a guy’s hole. Lots of aggressive tongue work on his hole can feel good, but it will soon lose its thrill. It’s not just a guy’s hole that is sensitive – work your mouth over his entire taint; it’s one big erogenous zone.
Also, make sure that you’re using all of your mouth. Sure, tonguing his hole is good, but bite, chew, spit, kiss, lick, and then do it all again – keep him guessing what’s coming next and demonstrate your skills.
Don’t forget that your breath is one of the pleasure tools at your disposal. Gently blow on his hole, and you’ll have him begging for more.
Top Tip 3: Find Your Preferred Position
You might need to try a few different options to find a position that works for you both – you both need to be comfortable if you’re going to enjoy an extended rimming session.
An easy starting point is to have him lying on his stomach, with his ass presented to you for attention. You might move him up into a doggy-style position, giving you different angles to play with.
You could have him on his back and push his knees back to his chest, exposing his ass.
You can get some great depth with your tongue if he’s sitting on your face, but you must ensure he’s not putting too much weight on you.
Top Tip 4: Listen to your partner for tips
Communication is critical – listen to his moans, listen to his feedback and be aware of the overall rimjob dating experience your partner is having to ensure everyone is having fun.
If he’s not that verbal, tune in to what his body tells you – does he wiggle his butt when he’s feeling good? That could be your cue to go harder and deeper or maybe keep doing more of the same.
I love making a bottom cum by rimming him like a West Indian sucking on a wet mango.
So hot! Especially that last pic.
Haven’t had any complaints from my regular rimmees 💋
I agree with the comment in the post: what I love about rimming is the intimacy. I do believe it is one of the most intimate things two people can do together.
there’s a level of intimacy that can’t be achieved elsewhere – it’s been seen as dark, dirty, musty, “Satan’s kiss”, and downright nasty which makes the experience all the more pleasurable! start with a tongue tease around the perimeter of the anus first – don’t just plunge into the hole, then gradually reduce the tonguing perimeter until you’re ready to squeeze between the anal lips into the dark abyss! the asshole really doesn’t have any flavor, it’s pretty much about the different anal textures and the mild to pungent scent that differs with each partner. bon(e) appetit!
Very good advice. I love giving (and getting) rimjobs. One of my favorite techniques, which I learned from a str8 guy, is spelling out the alphabet with your tongue on his hole, cheeks spread open so you can go around and into the hole as you tongue A to Z. Feels so good!
Not trying to be judgmental here – and I was happy to see that the article stresses the importance of having a clean butthole for any type of rimming activities – but there is a real danger of contracting some possibly severe illnesses from this activity – most often a form of hepatitis. Been there, done that myself. So, if you’re into the rimming scene – more power to you, just make sure you are playing cleanly and safely.
Hepatitis is why I don’t rim. That and the fact that it can get messy real quick if an ‘accident’ occurs.
not something i like to do
Love to rim guys, but just younger ones. 18 – 30. After that I just don’t feel it. Also like them thin to toned. I like a good rim myself at times. If you want to politely get rid of someone, I suggest eating lots of Baked beans.
That’s a whole other hanky code
Certainly plenty of guys here I’d do it to. 😈
I am learning and practicing as much as possible😈😈😪😪🔥🔥😈😈
Rimming…. It does absolutely NOTHING! For me. I will take it if that’s your thing, but most definitely, I won’t do it myself.
Hi:-))
May I ask why you are opinionated on my comment? The boy who I am writing to will know it is for him. And no one else.
Do we know each other? Because I don’t plan on planting my mouth on your ass. Even if we are fucking with 4 other guys, no one gets what my ❤️gets. Simply because it would take too long for me to have everyone scrub and shave…😂 And for this Wannabe Slut, there are things only my L/M&Love share with me. And I Love Sex/Cannot get enough/cannot get enough of him and everything he needs and wants/ which is seriously with pleasure!
Sorry to be a party pooper lol. I talked to a fellow who said he contracted a “bug” he said by rimming a guy. He didn’t get into specifics other than it fucked him up so that he could never gain weight. So I guess there are concerns to consider before diving in.
One of best parts of gay foreplay.
Nice article, made me think of my older friends telling me it was the most -/():/ thing, so I tried it on my ‘daddy’ top – he no say no.
I added a few approaches that can get you in and in and n again, bet everyone has a trick…
Great article and pics! Caught HEP A as a result of doing this, never again!
I would rather see more and more and more and more white tops rimming black bottoms
i love rimming black men the most but they are are to find
As in all things sexual know thy partner is paramount cleanliness is respect fecal matter as they say is not nice. One of my favorite things is rimming my guy,nice write up on this subject
As in all things sexual know thy partner is paramount cleanliness is respect fecal matter as they say is not nice. One of my favorite pleasures is rimming my guy,nice write up on this subject .
wow great info thank you.. i like rimming close asses no open ones and clean ones and bubble butts and rimming is what i like doing the MOST
I love to lick and eat out a hot n sweaty asshole!! And I really get into it by licking all around the area, spitting/drooling on his hole, sucking on his ass lips, tongue-fucking his hole, rubbing my nose, mouth and my entire face on/over his asshole and sucking up any extra juices that may come from inside him!!! Delicious!!
I like to rim a clean ass I prefer it’s been freshly loaded with cum. Mmm so tasty. Great to kiss the guy after and give him something to savor. ( feltching). I always like to do a scatch and sniff test before rimming.
It’s my favourite pass time, just experimenting with the tongue, where to press or or lick, kiss, suck the hole and press the tongue in…I could spend hours rimming a hole!
Well for all you naysayers about rimming assholes, it’s one of the most exogenous areas of the body and it gets both sexes equally hot as foreplay!!! Now I’m a mature bisexual man who loves to eat and tongue fuck pussy and asshole deeply for years! I have always used Saran Wrap or dental dams for continued safety with the same effectiveness feelings on taint asshole and pussy WITHOUT all the inexperienced ” freakouts” about unsafe practices! Enjoy the holes much as I have for years!!!! Educate yourself before you start.
I won’t rim any guy I’m with, I’m a very picky eater. I’ve always had great feedback with how I eat an ass, I love getting really wet and sloppy until they are begging for my cock to slide in.
I find guys love it when you run your fingers across their hole while eating their ass. Don’t stick your fingers in but firmly press against their hole as you move across with either one or two fingers, use plenty of saliva and tease their hole, make them think that your fingers might go in but don’t give them what they want, not straight away anyway. Like the article said, keep them guessing
To all the guys on here worrying about Hep, why don’t they just get vaccinated? Also take Doxy PEP for even more peace of mind.
Absolutely love giving and getting rim, so erotic for me