A virtual private network, or a VPN, is a clear need for many gay males actively online in 2025; from new legislation that blocks the viewing of gay porn online, as one example, we explore the additional benefits of why a VPN becomes even more important as a gay man online.

Reminder: What is a Virtual Private Network (VPN)?

For those who missed our earlier blogs on VPNs and top VPN brands for gay males, here’s a quick refresher: a Virtual Private Network or VPN creates a “cloaking network” to put it simply, in which the data you browse doesn’t go back to your internet service provider, and if you choose the correct country for a VPN provider to be hosted in, that data doesn’t go anywhere else.

If the internet is the most crowded gay bathhouse, think of a VPN as your best gay darkroom in your own personal sex club, so no one sees you, but your dick still gets plenty of action.

Our previous blogs made some good points, but here are two more reasons why using a VPN as a gay, bi or horny straight-curious male is essential in 2025.

1. Protects Your Identity and Personal Information

Beyond the Age and ID laws currently taking place across the US, let’s consider your fundamental privacy rights on their own. Here are a few facts to keep in mind.

Did you know that, without a VPN, your internet provider can see where your photos are being posted? No, they can’t see your awesome gay dick pic, as most modern apps send data over HTTPS/TLS encryption by default.

However, your ISP can see which service you’re using. For example, when you post a photo on Instagram, they can see it’s Instagram. The profile photo (even if it’s just an avatar) on your fave porn website, so you can better save your fave videos? You bet.

Better yet, in most countries, the government can subpoena or otherwise compel an internet service provider (ISP) to hand over customer data, which includes your name and billing address, and the domains you connect to (e.g., facebook.com, dropbox.com, thisgaysite.fuckme, etc.)

Many gay men may live in countries where LGBTQ content is heavily censored or restricted, and this is becoming increasingly the standard across the world in 2025. A VPN cloaks all the data above, leading to a happy browsing time watching hot gay porn, without fear of your browsing being requested by law enforcement, especially if you worry about your country, state or city becoming a police state.

The good news is that your ISP (usually) only keeps minimal logs for 90 days, and government officials have mentioned they don’t want to retain data for very long, at least for now.

Larger ISPs may retain specific connection metadata for 6 months to 1 year; however, this period is not much longer, primarily due to expense (cloud data doesn’t grow on trees). 

So, if you worry about your past data impacting you, don’t sweat it. However, now is a good time to start shopping for a VPN provider and start protecting your future data.

2. A VPN Can Help You Avoid Getting Doxxed?

So to start: no, a VPN won’t completely stop or protect you from being doxxed.

However, grabbing someone’s IP address is often one of the first steps hackers, stalkers, or online harassers take if they’re trying to dox someone.

The reason is that your IP address can reveal your approximate location (city/region, sometimes down to a neighborhood), which may be OK, if all you’re hearing is “approximate.” 

Yet, with data breaches showing a 211% year-over-year increase in victims, it’s very likely that a list with your address may be out there. If all they need is an IP address to confirm that the “John Stud” in a cyberhack list is indeed you, and you don’t have a VPN, you could be in big trouble (like massive dick with no lube trouble).

Think about it: a VPN helps throw a malicious entity off the trail of finding out who you are.

For example, if a VPN is spoofing your location, and shows you’re based in New York and they are looking for someone in Detroit, you’ve helped confuse a cyberattacker and mitigate a personal attack on you.

Also, back to VPNs and how they relate to hackers getting your data: clicking a malicious link (which logs your IP when you visit) is one big way you get your data leaked, and with phishing links getting more and more sophisticated by the day, many VPNs have built-in malware software for these types of things, minimizing the liklihoodd of this happening to you.

So, what are you waiting for? Get started on finding a VPN solution for you, not only to keep your gay porn browsing private but also ensure you’re just a better web surfer overall in 2025, where personal data hacks are rampant and data is more complex to keep your property than ever before.

There’s nothing new about curious straight guys, right? If you’ve spent any time cruising, you’ll have come across your fair share of DL guys and dudes who just happen to be in the right place at the right time for a bit of no-questions-asked man-on-man action.

But if a curious straight guy slides into your DMs, it can be tricky terrain to navigate. Let’s get into it.

Why are straight men having gay sex?

While everyone likes the simplicity of a binary world, trying to label everything and confine ourselves to specific boxes of behaviour is very limiting and doesn’t recognise the complexity of our lives.

If someone tells you that they’re straight, don’t assume that it’s a label that totally defines them. There’s lots of grey areas and fluidity when it comes to sexuality. A guy might be into a bit of man-on-man action, but still identify as straight. That’s his business. He may still be working some stuff out, or he might just have a different understanding of sexuality and identity than you do. Not everyone plays by the same rules.

There’s lots of reasons why a straight dude could be up for some fun with another guy. They might get off on the masculine energy, it might just be convenient for them, or it’s something that they’ve seen in porn and felt like giving it a go. You don’t need to understand why a straight guy wants to have sex with you, you just need to be clear on whether or not you want to have sex with them.

What is homoflexible?

Homoflexibility refers to men who primarily identify as heterosexual but are open to exploring same-sex experiences or relationships to varying degrees. It’s a concept that blurs the lines between strictly gay or straight classifications.

For example, if a guy that identifies as straight is down for gay gym hookup, you could probably describe him as homoflexible. Of course, bisexual is another term that could be applied in this situation, but a guy that’s just dipping his toe into having sex with men may not be ready to embrace a bisexual identity.

When fucking straight guys, am I hooking up with bicurious men?

Bicurious is another helpfully vague term that you’ll often hear when talking about straight guys who have sex with men.

Straight guys that are open to exploring things sexually quickly realise that their butt is a major erogenous zone. Once you start to unlock the pleasure that your can experience through different parts of your body, your imagination kicks in – what would it be like to be fucked by another guy?

If we limit ourselves and we limit the sexual encounters that we allow ourselves to experience, then we’re potentially shutting ourselves off from a whole world of pleasure.

How Can I Have Sex with a Homoflexible Male?

If you’re scrolling through a gay hookup app or website and you’re chatting with a guy who identifies as straight but seems interested in getting naked with you, here’s some hints and tips to help you navigate the encounter.

Create a Risk-Free Environment to Sexually Explore

Chances are that this isn’t going to be the first bi-male sexual experience that your straight guy has pursued. Nevertheless, you’re probably going to need to demonstrate a bit of empathy and understanding if it feels like he’s giving you mixed signals or a bit of a chaotic energy.

You’re not there to pass judgement or to ask probing questions about his personal life or identity. You’re just two dudes, getting down to business. Just two guys with needs, helping each other out.

Take It Slow

It’s likely that you’re going to have way more experience than him when it comes to how gay sex goes down.

You’re going to need to be patient and let him set the pace.

Kissing might weird him out – try not to be offended by that.

I always find that offering to give a straight guy a massage is an easy starting point. Get him naked, get him on your bed, and get him used to you touching his body in a non-threatening way. You don’t have to be good at massage but a bit of enthusiasm goes a long way.

Don’t Expect Anything

You might be the kind of guy who doesn’t feel satisfied unless you’ve been stretched and pounded with some gay double penetration or flooded with the loads of a room full of anonymous fuck-buddies.

It’s important to be aware that your straight guy might be at the more vanilla end of the spectrum. He might be up for a mutual jack-off session and some light frottage. If that’s not going to cut it for you, then maybe this isn’t the hook-up that you’re looking for.

Ask Questions (If You Want To)

After you’ve both cum, it’s going to be tempting to try and debrief with your straight guy as to what went down. Did he enjoy it? Will there be repeat business?

The reality is that it might take him a while to process things. He may leave straight away without saying much, he might not return your messages, he may block you. It’s not personal – he’s a straight guy who’s figuring some stuff out. That’s what you’re signing up for – if that’s what you’re into.

Written by Gareth Johnson