Dating in the gay porn industry isn’t as glamorous—or as chaotic—as people on the outside tend to think. It lives somewhere in the middle. If I’m being honest, it’s a space that constantly challenges how you define intimacy, trust, and even your own boundaries.
When people hear what I do, the first assumption is that dating must be easy. You’re surrounded by attractive people, sex is normalized, and there’s this idea that everyone is open and uninhibited.
In reality, that accessibility can make things more complicated, not less. It blurs lines. It forces conversations earlier than most people are ready for, and it can surface insecurities you didn’t even know you had.
1. The job doesn’t stay on set
One thing people don’t realize is that the work doesn’t end when the scene does. There’s a whole second layer: social media, content promotion, and fan interactions on platforms like OnlyFans or JustForFans. That means DMs at all hours and staying “active” online to keep income steady.
From the outside, it can look like your partner is always “on,” and in some ways, they are. That can be a hard adjustment if you’re used to traditional boundaries between work and personal life. It’s not about choosing work over a relationship; it’s just the reality of how the industry functions now.
2. It is “just a job”—but that can be hard to accept
This is probably the biggest mental hurdle. You can understand logically that it’s work, but emotionally, it doesn’t always land that way.
You might find yourself wondering if it’s different with you—if what you have is still special. Those thoughts don’t make you insecure; they make you human. The important part is talking about it instead of pretending the feeling doesn’t exist. The truth is, there is a difference. Performance is performance; connection is something else entirely. But getting comfortable with that distinction takes time and trust.
3. There’s no such thing as a “normal” schedule
This gay adult industry runs on a gig-economy mindset. There is no 9-to-5 or predictable routine. Work comes in waves: busy weeks with long shoot days, followed by quiet lulls. That unpredictability affects dating more than people expect. Plans change, travel comes up last minute, and availability is rarely consistent. It requires a level of flexibility that not everyone is wired for, especially those who thrive on structure.
4. The “lifestyle” is real, but it’s not for everyone
There’s a stereotype that comes with the industry: partying, drugs, and a nonstop social scene. That world definitely exists, and some people get caught up in it. Others don’t. Dating in this space means being aware of that environment without assuming it defines everyone in it.
Boundaries matter here more than ever. Knowing what you’re okay with and being clear about it early on can save a lot of confusion later. It’s less about judging the environment and more about understanding how your partner moves within it.
5. Trust isn’t optional… it’s everything
If there’s one thing that holds everything together, it’s trust. Not the surface-level kind, but a much deeper version. You have to trust that your partner respects what you have off-camera just as much as what happens on it. You have to trust that attention from fans doesn’t equal intention.
There’s also the layer of public perception. People will have opinions and make assumptions about your partner’s character. If you let those voices in, they can quietly ruin a relationship. The strongest couples I’ve seen in this industry are the ones who stay grounded in their own reality, not the outside noise.
RANDY BLUE: Ryan Rush and Lucas Scott have hooked up before and are still very hot for each other because they leap into action right away in Ryan’s RandyBlue debut. Ryan goes down on Lucas who immediately fingers his hole and face-fucks him. And when Lucas starts to eat out his hole, Ryan pulls his cheeks apart to non-verbally beg him for cock – which Scott gives him without hesitation.
Ryan fucls himself on Lucas’ cock which he takes as an invitation to pound him hard —which Lucas does with major power top energy. They take it down a notch for a 69 but soon Lucas resumes drilling Ryan up against the wall and on his back, gripping him by the neck as he gets closer. Intense orgasms result as Lucas shoots over Ryan’s gape and then drills him until he cums too.
FALCON STUDIOS:To punish Beau Butler for his misconduct at rap star Andre Donovan’s estate, the warden instructs his henchmen to take it out on the one thing that Beau loves most, his boyfriend. The guards arrange for intimidating inmates Bennett Anthony, Chris Damned, Reign and Alpha Wolfe to gang-bang Drew Valentino until he’s completely broken down. Bennett pushes Drew over a cafeteria table as Chris and Alpha hold the hairy prisoner in place.
Ripping Drew’s prison-issued boxers at the back, Bennett rams his ginger cock straight up Drew’s bushy butthole before letting Chris have a turn. When Bennett notices that that the stoic Reign is tentative and hanging back, he pressures the tattooed hunk to get his enormous cock warmed in Drew’s guts. With Drew on the ground, he is served not only the raw dicks that were just deep inside him but also Bennett’s red-hot cum-chute.
Once Drew is flipped onto his back, his legs are held wide apart by Alpha and Reign while Chris squats down to cover Drew with his sweaty asshole. Bennett next licks Drew’s meat ring, warming it up for a second round of bareback hole-punching that leaves Drew covered in everyone’s cum. Will Drew survive to protect his boyfriend from The Warden’s wrath?
ACTIVE DUTY: It’s just guys being guys, having fun on base. Whether it’s DL hookups in the showers, or sneaky after-hours fuck sessions at the dorms, these guys aren’t afraid to let loose and have some fun with each other’s holes and poles. Kyle Harper’s roommate is gone, and he’s got a perfect plan to have Andrew Delta and Sage Roux over for some fun. Little does he know that Sage and Andrew have plans of their own. It’s fun in the sun that ends with a wild threeway for these hot military men.
Industry awards such as the Grabbys are not only an opportunity to celebrate the men that fuel our fantasies, but they’re also an important lever in the marketing and promotional campaigns for performers focused on building their brand and growing their audience.
The nominees have been announced and public voting is now underway.
Let’s take a look at the field in each of the categories so that you can carefully consider who is getting your votes.
Hottest Twink
Alex Gonz
Bad Boi Benvi
Canyon Cole
Darron Bluu
Dex Devall
Grant Ducati
Jake Preston
Jamar West
Lucien Sin
Max Mabry
Mikey Vega
Noah White
Seth Peterson
Silas Brooks
Spikey Dee
Trevor Harris
Zac Steele
There’s a lot of worthy contenders in this field. We adore Bad Boi Benvi, Seth Peterson is an accomplished performer, and Zac Steele always has our attention.
Hottest Top
Adam Snow
Carter Woods
Cliff Jensen
Dom Llamas
Drake Von
Guy Spencer
Jason Derek
Jayden Marcos
JJ Nova
Justin Matthews
Kev Inspiring
Legrand Wolf
MaXXX Schlong
Reece Scott
Sir Peter
Who is going to be voted Top of the Tops? Adam Snow brings Top energy to everything he does but it’s hard to go past the Portuguese god that is Sir Peter.
Hottest Bottom
Andrew Delta
Cade Cain
Gordon Saucedo
Jace Starr
Jamar West
Jax Thirio
JJ Nova
Kyle XX FTM
Lucien Sin
Mikey Vega
Milo Miles
Noah Asli
Noah White
Rob Montana
Trevor Harris
Andrew Delta is excellent at taking dick, but we could also make a case for Milo Miles. He’s super-intelligent and articulate – nerdy bottom boys are hot, right?
Hottest Daddy
Ace Banner
Adam Snow
Beaux Matthews
Bruce Jones
Cain Marko
Daddy Patrick
Dane Hardon
Derek Kage
Dillon Diaz
Greg Dixxon
Jake Apton
Jason Derek
Kev Inspiring
Legrand Wolf
MaXXX Schlong
Reece Scott
Men like Reece Scott and Daddy Patrick are straight out of Central Casting for horny Dads, but we’re loving that Dillon Diaz has embraced his daddy-era – it would be great to see that celebrated.
Hottest Cock
Adam Snow
Alex Kof
Bull Boss Josh
Chris Damned
Cliff Jensen
Elijah Zayne
Jake Andrich
Jake Apton
Jason Derek
Jayden Marcos
Legrand Wolf
Lucien Sin
MaXXX Schlong
Nico Coopa
Rhyheim Shabazz
Serg Shepard
Spikey Dee
XXL Huge Twink
We’re fans of cock whatever shape or size it comes in, so this is a tough choice, but it kind of has to be Alex Kof, right?
Hottest Body
Beau Butler
Cade Maddox
Derek Kage
Dick Dawson
Dylan Tides
Hazel Hoffman
Jack Xtra
Jake Andrich
Jake Apton
Jayden Marcos
Lane Colten
Lucien Sin
Reese Rideout
Rhyheim Shabazz
Santana XXL
Vincent Grey
Zander Woodz
This is a difficult category to judge – are we voting on the body that we most enjoy seeing naked or the body most likely to land an underwear ad campaign? There’s something kind of perfect about Beau Butler’s furry physique, but then Rhyheim Shabazz looks like he’s carved from marble which is also compelling.
Hottest Content Creator
Brandon Cardoso
Darren Bluu
Darryl Ryder
Dom Llamas
Drake Von
Dylan Tides
Hazel Hoffman
Jake Andrich
Jake Apton
Julian Barboza
Kyle XX FTM
Lucien Sin
MaXXX Schlong
Mikey Vega
Rob Montana
Santana XXL
Sean Xavier
Serg Shepard
Silas Brooks
Spikey Dee
Zander Woodz
Content creation is the name of the game but we probably need some more definition on what “hottest” means in this context if we’re going to be comparing apples with apples. Drake Von seems to have mastered much of what is required to be a successful content-creator in today’s adult entertainment industry – that deserves some recognition.
Performer of the Year
Adam Snow
Alex Kof
Beau Butler
Daddy Patrick
Derek Kage
Drake Von
Jake Apton
Jayden Marcos
Joey Mills
Legrand Wolf
Nico Coopa
Ryder Owens
Serg Shepard
Silas Brooks
Spikey Dee
All of the Grabby Awards are worth winning, but Performer of the Year is the big trophy that recognises someone at the peak of their career. This is a very strong field so it’s hard to predict who will triumph, but it’s hard to think of a more deserving winner than Derek Kage – he’s a professional who works hard and loves this industry.
Best Versatile Performer
Cole Blue
Cole Connor
Darron Bluu
Derek Kage
Dominic Pacifico
Dylan Tides
Greg Dixxon
Jake Apton
Jake Waters
Jayden Marcos
Kev Inspiring
Nico Coopa
Ryder Owens
Silas Brooks
Sumner Blayne
Vincent Grey
Zander Woodz
Versatile men are top-tier. Cole Connor always gives 100 percent, but maybe this could be Nico Coopa’s year?
Best Actor
Adam Snow – Hung Fuckers
Carter Woods – Breaking Free
Darron Bluu – Darron Fills Eddie With Big Cock
Derek Kage – Wild Game
Jake Apton – Snake Charmer
Johnny Donovan – End Of Your World
Leander – The Devil You Know
Legrand Wolf – Funsized Boys
Milo Miles – Twink Top
Nico Coopa – Double Booked
Paddy O’Brian – The The Nines
Paul Wagner – Wild Game
Serg Shepard – 12 to 8: Wednesday
Serg Shepard – Midnight Rider
Sir Peter – The Barcelona Job
Great to see Leander getting some recognition for his work on The Devil You Know, but this trophy probably belongs to Paul Wagner for his performance in Wild Game – if you were going to be hunted by anyone, you’d want it to be Paul Wagner.
Best Supporting Actor
Blain O’Connor – Wild Game
Derek Kage – Double Wide
Eddie Burke – The Way to a Man’s Heart
Gustavo Cruz – 12 to 8: Wednesday
Jake Mathews – The Devil You Know
Jayden Marcos – Wild Game
John Jai – The Devil You Know
Justin Matthews – End Of Your World
Kyle Wyncrest – Double Booked
Leander – The Devil You Know
Miles Fallon – Wild Game
Rhyheim Shabazz – The Barcelona Job
Ryder Owens – End Of Your World
Sir Peter – The Devil You Know
End Of Your World was a parody of The Walking Dead, so we could see Justin Matthews or Ryder Owens recognised for surviving the zombie apocalypse, but my money is on Blain O’Connor for bringing the crazy to Wild Game.
Best Newcomer
Cade Cain
Darryl Ryder
Dio Ferrero
Jake Apton
Jamar West
JJ Nova
John Jai
Kyle XX FTM
Mikey Vega
Miles Fallon
Nicholas Michaels
Q Moore
Vincent Grey
Zander Woodz
This has been a big year for Miles Fallon – he’s filmed major studio productions, he’s smashed it on social media, and he brings his eager little bro energy to everything he tackles.
Best Director – All Sex
Alter Sin and Ben Rush – Spain In The Ass 2
Ben Rush – Ten Out Of Ten
Brian Fitzgibbons – International Transfer 2
Danny Zeeman – Cockaholics Anonymous
Jake Jaxon – Fuck Around and Find Out
Jasun Mark – Deep Ends
Jeremy Babcock – Double Booked
Rex Marco – Capo Dei Capi
Steve Cruz – Hardwood Lodge
Spain In The Ass 2 was a big production to wrangle, but we loved the ambition of Capo Dei Capi from Rex Marco.
Best Director – Movie/Web Series
Alter Sin – French Connection
Alter Sin – To The Nines
Ben Rush – Bred and Breakfast
Ben Rush and Jessica Jasmin – Wild Game
Jeremy Babcock – Double Booked
Legrand Wolf and Foxtrot – Deeper Deep Throat
Micah Martinez – Active Duty
Micah Martinez – End of Your World
Rex Marco – Capo Dei Capi
Ryan Brian and Jasun Mark – Double Wide
Alter Sin had some great work on French Connection, but the energy of Wild Game will probably see the trophy going to Ben Rush and Jessica Jasmin.
Best Threeway Scene
Ace’s Boys – Ace Banner, Dex Devall, and Marcus McNeill
ASG Auditions – Serg Shepard, Kyle Harper, and Derek Spears
Break for Cole – Adam Snow, Cole Blue, and Noah White
Bred and Breakfast – Alex Kof, Miles Fallon, and Scott Braun.
Bucket List – Carter Woods, Vincent Grey, and Trevor Brooks
Capo Dei Capi – Ryder Owens, Magnus Loki, and Dato Foland
Cockaholics Anonymous – Jessie Lee, Danny Wilcoxx, and Levy Fox
Double Booked – Kyle Wyncrest, Nico Coopa, and Kane Fox
Hard Working Tools – Magnus Loki, Justin Jett, and Serg Shepard
Holey Night – Sam Ledger, LeandroXL, and Josh
Houseboy – Andrew Delta, Derek Kage, and Jayden Marcos
Feels So Good – Jake Waters, Hazel Hoffman, and Ty Santana
Just Say Yes – Aiden Ward, Seth Cain, and Alex Kof
My Two Dads – Daddy Patrick, Dom Llamas, and Dillon Hess
Nico’s First Threeway – Jayden Marcos, Nico Coopa, and Evan Knoxx
The Covenant – Ace Banner, Dylan Tides, and Reece Scott.
The Devil You Know – Leander, Ross Hurston, and Adam Tyrant
We’re spinning the roulette wheel on this one – so many great threesome scenes to choose from, and a lot of our favourite performers represented. Hard Working Tools featuring Magnus Loki, Justin Jett, and Serg Shepard brought three outstanding men together, so that’s worth celebrating.
Best Duo
French Connection – Andolini XXL and Hugo Dupre
Up Blacks Crack – Archer Black and Silas Brooks
Ride Me – Benvi and Zen Goken
Tattooed Bruce Barebacked After Massage – Bruce Jones and Sumner Blayne
Damage Control – Don Llamas and Damaged Bottom
12 to 8: Wednesday – Gustavo Cruz and Serg Shepard
Wild Game – Jayden Marcos and Andrew Delta
End Of Your World – Johnny Donovan and Justin Matthews
Game. Set. Match. – Kyle Wyncrest and Andrew Delta
Femboy Surprise – Marcus McNeil and Mikey Vega
Inside Milo – Milo Miles and Jay Stryker
No Loads Refused – Nico Coopa and Serg Shepard
Bred and Breakfast – Paul Wager and Sir Peter
My Boy Zac – Reece Scott and Zac Steele
Training Howls How To – Rob Montana and Grayson Howls
End Of Your World – Ryder Owens and Noah Asli
Reece Scott and Zac Steele created some magic with their scene but we do have skin in the game with this category – No Loads Refused was a co-production from Squirt Studios, so we’d love to see the award going to Nico Coopa and Serg Shepard.
Best All Sex Movie
12 to 8: Wednesday
Capo Dei Capi
End Of Your World
Flash Bang
Global All Stars Orgy
Hall Pass
Hog Heaven
Midnight Rider
Red, White, and Bred
Ride Me
Spain in the Ass 2
Spikey Dee and Joey Mills
No Loads Refused
Ten out of Ten
The Whole Package
Trying New Things
We’re really proud of No Loads Refused – we’d love to see some recognition for the work of director Micah Martinez and performers Serg Shephard and Nico Coopa. If you want a horny movie to fuel your fantasies, this is it!
Best Group Scene
Boy Unchained
Cosa Nostra Gangbang
Casa Iquitos Gangbang
Christopher White CumDump
Drake Von and Friends
Global All Stars Orgy
Hog Heaven
Jets Collab Week – Naked Beach Orgy
Red, White, and Bred
Derek’s First Gonzo Gangbang
Ritual Orgy of Muscle
Wild Game
The best group scenes generally convey the raw, unbridled sexual energy you feel with a roomful of men all getting it on – you don’t want it to be too choreographed or controlled. Which is why Hog Heaven – the annual Pig Week orgy from Don Llamas gets our vote.
Favorite FTM Performer
Adam Cyrus
Andy Deviance
Asher James
Austin Spears
Chance Heart
Coby Webb
Colby Tate
Gray West
J London
Joey Michaels
Kyle XX FTM
Noah Way
Stevie Trixx
Tommy Tanner
Tommy Topii
It’s hard to go past Stevie Trixx – he’s been in this game a while and knows how to produce quality content.
Best Movie/Web Series
12 to 8: Wednesday
Active Duty – Operation Weekend Off Base
Bred and Breakfast
Capo Dei Capi: Cosa Nostra
Deeper Deep Throat
End Of Your World
French Connection
No Loads Refused
The Devil You Know
Wild Game
No Loads Refused has got to win something, right? Could it be this one?
Best Screenplay
12 to 8: Wednesday
Bred and Breakfast
The Devil You Know
To The Nines
Wild Game
French Connection
Deeper Deep Throat
End Of Your World
Welcome Home
Double Wide
We liked the narrative strands of Bred and Breakfast. Also, Wild Game was a well mapped-out storyline. But maybe we’d give this trophy to French Connection? There’s a lot to love about a man with a French accent.
JustFor.Fans Fan Favorite
Ace Banner and Tyler Saint
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Darron Bluu
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Ed FTM XX
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Kyle XX FTM
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Lucien Sin
MaXXX Schlong
Mikey Vega
Milo Miles
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Rob Montana
Serg Shepard
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If you’ve ever imagined being the meat in a muscle-dad sandwich, it’s hard to go past Ace Banner and Tyler Saint.
CARNAL+: Marcus is next door working on the neighbor’s lawn, so Mr. Banner figured that he and Dex had the house to themselves for a couple of hours. It’s only been a few days, but Mr. Banner needs to be inside his boy’s hole. He finds his boy in his room, sits down on his bed and starts flirting with him. He doesn’t want Dex to ever feel like he’s obligated to do anything. Just like the man figured though, it has been too long for his boy, too, and he’s eager to spend some time with his daddy also.
Mr. Banner gets him naked on his knees sucking his dad’s cock, which is hard as a steel pipe. What he really wants to be doing is fucking his son’s ass, though. He gets him up on the bed and starts eating him out. Then he looks up and sees Marcus standing in the doorway.
He tells Dex that his brother is there and asks if he can join them. Of course Dex says “yes.” Mr. Banner moves around so that Dex could suck his cock while Marcus eats his ass. Mr. Banner loves seeing his two handsome boys playing together.
Mr. Banner lets Marcus go first. He slips in and immediately starts rabbit fucking like the over eager horny young top that he is, although Dex doesn’t seem to mind getting pounded hard. Finally, it’s dad’s turn. Dex flexes his hole tight for his dad as Mr. Banner slides in, still warm and sloppy with the family DNA. Damn what a family! Mr. Banner is the luckiest dad on the planet…
NEXT DOOR STUDIOS/ SQUIRT CRUISING: Trevor Brooks is a pro at cruising the hiking trails. He knows what to look for, where to go, what spots to duck into, and just want to do to have hot hookups while he’s getting his cardio done in the great outdoors. Luckily for him, he stumbles upon the eager Ricky Lee and Ricky is just as happy to have some dirty fun on the trails.
