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Are you into fisting? It’s not for everyone, but there’s something incredibly intimate about being fisted or being able to sink your fist into a guy’s ass – it’s the ultimate trust exercise.
Let’s take a look at the allure of fisting and how you can level up your fisting fun.
Why Do Gay Men Fist?
“Fisting isn’t for everyone…” advises Luka Sage – a certified fisting specialist. “It’s not something that everyone has to try. But if it is something that you’re interested in trying, you should definitely research it and learn about it before making an attempt. If you like the feeling of being stretched out, or if you’re into really big dicks, or big dildos, or depth play, then it’s probably something you might want to take a look at.”
How do I navigate my first gay fisting experience?
There are lots of factors at play when you’re navigating a fisting session – different aspects of the experience will appeal to different guys, depending on what pushes your buttons.
Extreme anal stimulation is definitely one of the main drivers. If you’ve been working your way up the dildo sizes, doing your gay anal training sessions, or you’re with a guy and a few fingers or a girthy dick ain’t enough anymore, a fist is definitely going to be on your to-do list.
If you’re watching a lot of fisting porn and your hole is aching to be worked over like the fist-pigs on your screen, then anal stimulation and a good rectum punch are going to be high on your wish list.
Why else do guys engage in gay fisting sex play?
Control and submission is another important aspect of fisting that appeals to a lot of guy. If you are giving a guy the green light to grease up his fists and get to work ruining your cunt, then that’s a pretty big deal. The power dynamic that’s at play is pretty intoxicating for everyone involved, and it’s hard not to consider the gay BDSM and power plays happening when you’re giving and receiving a good ol’ fist.
Intimacy is another thing that lots of fisting experts will talk about.
Plain old barebacking can sometimes feel a bit transactional – fuck, cum, go. But fisting is a whole other ball game. You’ve got to be a bit slower with fisting; you need a fair bit of communication when you’re fisting; the foreplay and initial stretch to the final goal is there. Plus, you’re also getting lots of eye contact. There’s possibly nothing quite as romantic as being fisted.
Some people describe fisting as a bit of an extreme sexual sport – a pursuit that inevitably comes with some risks.
While it’s true that if fisting goes wrong, then you can do some damage but that is pretty much true of anything that you tackle.
Your body copes surprisingly well with having a guy’s fist stretching out your sphincter. There’s nothing inherently bad about fisting – you’re not going to do your body any long-term damage. Your sphincter is totally used to stretching and contracting as the situation requires.
The main risks associated with fisting are when you’re not using enough lube, or you’re taking things too fast.
It’s a good idea to be sober when you’re fisting. If you’re intoxicated on something, then you won’t be as in tune with your body if something starts to hurt or feels uncomfortable. As we mentioned above, fisting is an intimate experience, so you want to be present. Drugs and alcohol may make you loose and ready, but may also lead to you not picking up when a love fist becomes one of anger. If you have Rocky going to town on you like you’re Apollo, and you’re inebriated, it could be bad news.
How Do I Practice Fisting Before Gay Sex?
It’s pretty much impossible to have a conversation at a gay bar without someone giving you anal sex tips, but if you’re a bit fist-curious, then here are some easy steps to get you started.
Slow and steady wins the race
Before you take a fist up your ass, you’re going to need to practice, and you’re going to need to research. Get comfortable with ass play. Watch lots of fisting porn – get a feel for how fisting works.
Of course, if you’ve never bottomed before, fisting may seem like a foreign curiosity. But if you’re into it, get going with some gay dildo play at home, phone a friend for some fingers, and eventually get to that point where the whole hand eventually is just a familiar pleasure choice.
Become a size queen
Reinforcing the above, make sure that you’re feeling confident about taking a fist by slowly working your way up in the size of the dildos that you’re bouncing on. Think about girth – that’s what is probably going to test you the most.
If you’re ready for some fisting fun, grab that partner and their helping hand, and don’t forget to warm everything up with some extended foreplay. You want to feel relaxed, you want to feel turned on, and you want your fuck-hole twitching in expectation of being properly worked over.
Lube it up
Fisting specialists will generally have a unique fisting lube brand and mixes that they swear by. If you’re starting, you’re probably still experimenting with the different lube options. The basic rule is to use plenty of lube. Really go to town with the grease and ensure everything is sliding smoothly. When it comes to fisting, there’s no such thing as being too liberal.
First Time Fisting with a Friend? Follow These Tips.
Because of the intimacy required by fisting, you generally want to make sure that you’re doing it with someone that you know and trust.
A fuck-buddy is ideal because you’ve already established that you work together sexually, and then adding fisting into the mix is taking things that step further.
You need to keep reminding yourself to take it slow. Sure, the experts in fisting porn are taking a guy’s arm up to the elbow like it’s nothing. It’s not a competition. Just do what feels right for you.
Communication is absolutely vital. That doesn’t mean that you have to give a running commentary on the experience—your communication may be mostly nonverbal. But use plenty of eye contact. Let him know when you’re feeling good and when you need to slow down or take a break.
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That’s when Tony reveals that HE’S been able to give a creampie before. But perhaps Tony’s said too much… Because of this experience, he’s soon convinced by his virgin friend to get fucked AND anally creampied!”
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When JJ starts fucking, he takes his time opening TD, who gets more vocal especially as JJ starts to plow him. TD shows he really wants more by riding JJ who soon takes charge. He lifts up TD and plops him on his back to pound him and fuck a load out of him. When he shoots too, JJ breeds him a little, leaving them both in an extended orgasmic state of euphoria.”
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How did you get started creating sexy content? I realized just how much I love to show off and be a slut online. It’s a kink for me. So I decided to monetize it!
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Whether in a shopping mall, park bathroom, the airport or a train station, the basics of bathroom cruising are pretty much the same wherever you go. In this post, we’ll cover the indicators of a “cruisy” bathroom, what to look for in other cruisers, signals to watch out for, stuff to be cautious about, things you can bring, and even what to wear. Let’s cruise!
Does the type of bathroom or public washroom matter for gay cruising sex?
Pretty much any restroom or bathroom can deliver some hot gay cruising action if the circumstances fall in your favour. Still, undoubtedly, some bathrooms develop a bit of a reputation because they lend themselves to anonymous man-on-man action, be a horny husband waiting for his wife at the local shopping mall to a hot male office worker in your work complex prowling the public access bathroom for some cock.
What type of bathroom am I looking for to find some hot male cock?
When it comes to gay restroom cruising, you’re generally looking for a bathroom that is a bit off the beaten track. That doesn’t mean that high-traffic restrooms won’t deliver cruising action, but the strike rate will probably be higher if it’s a bathroom that is a bit out of the way and not being used by lots of random people.
If you’re a horny college student, Maybe it’s in the basement of the library; or on the top floor of the shopping mall, as we mentioned above. Or, in a train station, which doesn’t get used or cleaned often, but has a lot of transient men looking for some brief and horny fun.
It’s the kind of bathroom that if a guy had made an effort to get there, they’re not just looking for somewhere to go to the toilet.
If you’re in a bathroom and you’re unsure about its cruising potential, look around for suggestive graffiti, obscene drawings, or phone numbers. That shows that guys have spent some time in here, and they’ve spent time in here with sex on their minds; mind you, the graffiti may be less likely in this day and age of doomscrolling where the waiting-for-dick male may be scrolling versus doodling. However, gay cruising is an age-old pastime, with certain bathroom hot spots standing the test of time, so look out for it, regardless.
And, of course, if you spot a hot gay glory hole in a cubicle wall, you know you’re in the right spot.
Once I’m there, ready for dick, what should I do next?
Cruising works best when you’re not in a hurry. Be relaxed, take your time, and be prepared to wait around a bit—see if anyone has followed you in or shows up while you’re there.
Use the technology. Use a gay cruising app like Squirt.org – it features cruising directories that will tell you precisely the best cruising bathrooms; these directories are user-generated by horny ready-to-burst males like you, who review the best ones and continue to update you when action is happening at certain hot spots, or when specific locations known for good gay cruising action have become totally deads-ville.
When Will Cruising Bathrooms Be the Busiest? What Type of Men Will I See?
Figuring out the best time to go cruising in a bathroom will depend on where you are and the type of restroom you use.
For example, mid-week cruising will be more popular if you’re at college or university—students and professors are generally elsewhere on weekends.
If you’re in the local mall, then weekends are peak times. You’re looking for the bored suburban dad who’s been dragged on a shopping trip against his will. Catch his eye in the bathroom and see if he’s interested in dropping a load.
Airports are always very transient with an international buffet; for example, a city like New York with many travellers means gay cruising at Newark airport can mean the promise of many types of men.
But remember, busier doesn’t always mean better. You might have a more satisfying cruising experience if not many people are around. You need to catch the eye of a guy who’s got the same thing on his mind as you – you just need to catch the eye of a guy who’s horny-as-fuck.
Also, don’t underestimate the value of Squirt.org; if you’re looking to cruise and have a well-known gay hookup bathroom spot near you in mind, see who else is on your grid eager for some public play and arrange a meet. Order up some of that hot dick through Squirt like it’s a pizza, but the only thing you’re interested in is that hot, long and spicy pepperoni stick!
How to Cruise for Guys in a Bathroom
Cruising requires everyone to be pretty low-key. There will not be a lot of talking—it’s a vibe.
There are two basic scenarios. You’re either in a stall and looking for gay cruising signals from the guys in the neighbouring stalls, or you’re at the urinal or wash basin.
If you’re at the urinal or washbasin, you can make eye contact with the other guys there.
If a guy is taking his time—standing extra long at the urinal, washing his hands extra long at the wash basin, and spending extra long checking himself in the mirror—then he’s not in a hurry to go anywhere and could be up for some fun.
Don’t underestimate eye contact or lingering looks and see when a quick wink could land you; just be careful you don’t misread anything, as that could lead to an argument, fight, or perhaps even mall security or police presence.
There are pros and cons to cruising at the urinal or setting up shop in a stall. It’s useful to be experienced in both techniques – that way, you can adapt your style to whatever is going to work best in the bathroom that you’re in.
If you’re standing at the urinal, and there’s a guy next to you giving you all the right signals, then you can reach across and let him know that you’re interested in his cock. You can drop to your knees and suck him off right there.
The downside of getting it on at the urinal is that you’re going to have to be more on guard about who might walk in while you’re sucking cock.
If you’re more interested in anonymous sex, then understall action is ideal. You don’t need to see their face – you just need access to their cock. Without the benefit of eye contact, if you’re in a stall, you’re looking for a suggestive tap of the foot or a finger running around the edge of a glory hole.
Additional Tips for Bathroom Cruising
Bulky shopping bags can be useful for creating visual barriers, particularly if you don’t want a security officer trying to count how many feet are in a stall.
Automatic flushing toilets can be a bit of a giveaway, but you can disable these by taping some toilet paper over the sensor.
You’re inevitably going to be on your hands and knees on the toilet floor. Plan ahead and take some wipes and hand sanitizer with you (unless you like filthy and raw, you little slut, then bend and take it!).
Think about easy access – sweatpants are ideal. You don’t want anything too tight or restrictive – you’re going to need to be able to get into some compromising positions. Wear something you can chuck straight into the washing machine when you get home.
What are your top tips for cruising for sex in bathrooms? Jump into the comments section below and share your cruising adventures!
