Do you like having your nipples worked over during a bit of man-on-man action? How rough can you take it? Can I get my teeth involved, or are you super-sensitive?

Let’s take a deep dive into why the nipples are not just the eyes of the torso but they’re also one of our most erogenous zone hot spots. There are some easy steps that we can all take to elevate our nipple game to the next level.

Why Do Gay Men Like Nipple Play?

The first thing to remember is that we’re all different. Not everyone is into the same stuff. Not everyone is turned on in the same way.

For example, some guys just aren’t into nipple play. Hands down, they don’t want you going near their nipples. Maybe it makes them uncomfortable, or maybe they’d just prefer that you focus your attention on other parts of their body – whatever the reason, take the hint.

However, just from my own extensive research, most guys that you get naked with will respond fairly positively when you put some focus on their nipples.

There is some science behind this. Our nipples are designed to be sensitive. What’s more, the sensations that you experience in your nipples travel to the same part of your brain as the sensations that you experience in your genitals. So, in simple terms, having a guy sucking on your nipples is going to have an effect on your body that’s a bit similar to having a guy sucking on your cock – it’s going to feel good.

That hard-wired connection between your nipples and your genitals is why a bit of nipple play can add to sexual arousal. If you’re naked and getting it on – whether you’re still at the foreplay stage or really getting down to it – bringing the nipples into play is going to add bonus points to whatever the body is already feeling.

Some guys will tell you that they need their nipples being tweaked or twisted in order to make them cum – it’s that extra jolt of pleasure that pushes them beyond the point of no return.

How to bring your A-game to your nipple play

A good starting point is to focus on some solo time when it’s just you exploring your own body. Remind yourself what kind of nipple play makes you feel good. Dedicate a quality masturbation session to really focusing on your nipples. Think about how your genitals and your nipples are both sending pleasure messages to the same part of the brain – explore what happens when you stimulate both together or alternate between your nipples and your genitals.

If you’re with a guy and you want him to focus on your nipples – or you want to put some of your nipple research into practice on him – it’s really helpful if you can communicate. You don’t necessarily have to use a lot of words, but you have to be able to let each other know what feels good.

The thing with nipples is that it’s best if you can start gently and then gradually turn up the intensity. Your menu of options might include:

• Breath: Let him feel your hot breath on his nipples. Let that anticipation build.
• Kissing and licking: Start gently. Get your lips and tongue involved.
• Sucking: Turn your kiss into a suck and see how his body responds.
• Biting: For some guys, this is a hard no – they might be too sensitive and will tell you that they don’t want your teeth anywhere near their nipples. But many of us really like how it feels when you chew on our titties.

There’s also a lot of tools at your disposal beyond your mouth:

• Oils, lotions, or lube: Get things slippery and see how that feels.
• Ice: The intensity of sensation that he’ll feel when you put a block of ice on his nipples can really kick things up a notch.
• Vibration: Some sort of vibrator or massaging device focused on his nipple can get him squirming.
• Clamps: If he’s already said no to biting, then he’s not going to want clamps on his nipples, but there are fun nipple clamps out there that can push your pleasure to the next level.
• Suction: Nipple suction and nipple pump devices can be fun to get your nipples big and juicy.

What if my nipples aren’t particularly sensitive?

It’s no big deal – everybody responds to different things. There are plenty of other ways that you can find pleasure.

There is a chance that your lack of nipple responsiveness is a learned behaviour.

As boys, when we discover how to masturbate, we’re generally trying to get it done as quickly as possible without anyone finding out. So, we teach ourselves a really functional approach to pleasure – jack your cock until you cum, then it’s job done.

That can leave you a bit closed off to all of the other erogenous zones on your body and the many ways that you can explore pleasure beyond just quickly rubbing one out.

Erotic massage or tantric meditation sessions are a great way to reconnect with your body and unlearn some of our transactional masturbation behaviours. If there’s no one near you offering these services, there are plenty of online tutorials out there.

Free the nipple!

Written by Gareth Johnson