In our transactional relationship with intimacy, we tend to automatically assume that sex means fucking – someone is going to get penetrated and someone is going to be doing the penetrating.
Sex means butt-fucking, right?
Obviously it can, but anal sex is just aspect of the broad range of sexual experiences that are available to us.
What is gay non-penetrative sex?
If you’re talking about gay non-penetrative sex, it’s kind of the long way of saying “no anal”.
A strict interpretation of non-penetrative sex could theoretically include “no oral” as well, but the general assumption is that non-penetrative sex means that you can do pretty much anything except butt-fucking.
Why would someone want to avoid gay penetration sex?
If you’re searching for your latest gay hookup partner on Squirt.org for anal sex, you might find yourself chatting with guys who are keen to connect but want to avoid gay penetration sex. There’s a few reasons why they might be in that headspace.
Trust and Consent
Lots of guys want to know something about you before they’ll have anal sex with you.
The fantasy of being fucked by an anonymous hot muscle jock or a gay leather daddy is one thing, but anal sex generally requires a level of trust and that’s something that everyone has to navigate in their own way.
Getting fucked by someone requires to be vulnerable – physically and emotionally. That can be a bit challenging if you’re meandering through the local cruising park near you.
Sexually Transmitted Infections
STIs are also top of mind for some guys. While you can look after yourself to some extent through PrEP and Doxy PeP, you might feel that anal sex exposes you to a higher risk of STI transmission.
That’s often a particular concern for guys who are in monogamous relationships and perhaps aren’t being totally transparent with their partner about down-low hook-ups.
That concern around STIs seems to have become a little more pronounced now that most guys are having gay bareback anal sex. Insisting on condoms for gay hookups can often be a deal-breaker, so non-penetrative sex might be an effective compromise.
Not feeling fresh
If you’re a 100 percent hot bonafide top you may not realise what’s required to prepare for anal sex – even certified power-bottoms can’t always be fresh and confident. If your bottom tells you that anal sex is off-limits until the next gay douching session, you need to respect that.
Here are ten ways to have non penetrative gay sex near you
Kissing
Making out with a guy is hot. Let your tongue do the talking.
Dry Humping
This is where the clothes stay on – there’s a lot of rubbing and a lot of friction.
Frottage
This is similar to dry humping but the clothes come off – you get to go dick-to-dick with your hook-up.
Handjobs and Mutual masturbation
Find yourself a bate buddy, grease up and get to work. Read how to give the ultimate gay handjob here.
Gay Footjob
If you’re into feet, this is a lot of fun – hold the soles of his feet together and fuck that. Read on how to give the ultimate gay footjob here.
Circle jerk
Circle jerks are an old-school way of getting off without touching anyone else but they’ve had a bit of a resurgence in an increasingly solo-sexual world. The good thing about organising a circle jerk is that you get to set the rules – if you don’t mind being a bit flexible with how much touching is allowed, a circle jerk can help you to get a great gay orgy going.
See more about arranging a gay circle jerk in our previous article and the best places to find a circle jerk near you.
BDSM Play
The power dynamics of gay BDSM are perfect to explore everything beyond anal sex.
Whether it’s gay bondage, humiliation kinks or whips and chains in the farthest extreme, it’s always a good time to get your kink on.
Roleplay
Your sexual encounters are only limited by your imagination. Whether it’s men in suits or the classic casting couch you see in many gay porn scenes, lean into role-plays that don’t require penetration.
Gay Tantric Massage
The structured intimacy of a man-on-man erotic massage is an ideal way to get all the pleasure of sex without any penetration. Read our gay tantric massage article, heat up the oil and get down to business.
Oral sex
How’s your head? You can improve your gag reflex for gay oral sex and get him off without anyone being fucked.
Is transmission with oral sex less than anal sex?
Different STIs are transmitted in different ways. Sure, you’re unlikely to acquire HIV if you limit yourself to oral sex, but there’s lots of other STIs out there that can easily be acquired if you put your mouth on his cock.
Gay Dildo Play
Does dildo play count as non penetrative sex? It probably depends on what your motivation is for avoiding getting fucked.
Being able to communicate openly with your sexual partners is what’s important – the more you can talk about what you’re into and the kind of sexual experience that you’re looking for, the easier it will be to navigate the boundaries that you’ve both set and maximise pleasure for everyone.
