Psychotherapist Matthew Dempsey breaks down the psychological nuts and bolts of how and why we tend to label ourselves and other gay men. He goes on to describe how this common practice can be really limiting individually and collectively as well as begins to describe how we can challenge bottom shaming so we can grow and heal (and have better sex)!

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Liked video. Does he like older men? Is he a top or bottom LOL
I like what this man has to say and how he says it. Thanks!
gosh he’s pretty
look at those perfect teeth
senior60: haha!!
Gorgeous and intelligent…WOW. Top or Bottom? Doesn’t matter!
Although we always have preferences and then there is timing. I have always thought it takes a good bottom to make a great top, and a good top to make a great bottom.
Interesting, as I have never heard of, let alone encountered ‘Bottom Shaming’ I not only admire good bottoms, I revere them for being able to do many things I can’t (try as I might) and enjoying it. Like with all irrational prejudice, it is only the one doing the ‘shaming’ that has the real inadequacy issues.
very well spoken and informative…
Matthew, Thank you you put into the perfect words what I have been trying to say for years. I also enjoy your YouTube channel and watch all your videos.
Again Thank you.
All nice and clear but who is taking all these on board ?
The only shaming I ever run into is the shame I felt when I tried bottoming, unfortunately it turned me into a top only. I often wonder what enjoyment the bottom is experiencing because I know he’s definitely enjoying the experience.
He is full of shit, on part of his thinking !!! I am a bottom and have always been a botton, I am 84 years of age, My sex started as a bottom, now if any man wants me to top them, I loose my hard on at just the thought of trying…si, I say it is all in the way of life…and the way you came out and grew…
This guy is a nut – and talking crap like this is why we queers – I hate the word gay – have a hard time.
I have never understood why anyone would want to limit themselves to one or the other. I end up topping a lot, because I’m a big guy with a big dick, a lot of bottoms like that combination. but I love bottoming too, there’s just something about having another man inside you, ya know?…it all feels good, so why pick just one?…as for shame, the minute you sucked your first cock and drank down that load, you gave the world something to try to shame you with…so what’s the issue?…man up!…own it!…
and yes, the speaker is quite cute…has potential for becoming a really hot bear…and I agree with mikepat about the way you came out playing a part…
very insightful – now if only there could be something done for all those sad “straight” and “bi” guys who’ll do anything to avoid being called “gay”…
Great story,i’ve found that the best tops have also bottomed and know better how to please.It takes more self confidence to stick your vunerable ass up in the air to take a cock then just sticking your boner in an ass,thanks.
Great segment, thanks for bringing it to your squirt members. Finally someone acknowledges that bottoms do a lot of prep work and planning to make an encounter hot and memorable. Bottoms be proud!
Cool