Squirt.org Readers Ask: Where Can I Find Gay Group Sex?

Whether you’ve done your anal training and feel prepped to take all that you can take, or you are curious to dip your toe into all that a gay orgy can provide you, we’ve provided some helpful tips and ways to find a gay sex party near you!

What is Group Sex?

As the name kind of suggests, group sex is a sexual encounter that simultaneously involves multiple people.

So, if it’s just you and one other guy – that’s not group sex.

If it’s you and two other guys, it’s a bit of a stretch to describe that as group sex – it would be more accurate to call that a threesome.

If it’s you and three other guys, you’re in the ballpark of group sex, but you’d generally describe that as a four-gy.

Once we get up to you and four other guys, or you and more than four different guys, then we’re safely in group sex territory.

You could also describe group sex and an orgy – the words are pretty much interchangeable.

What is a Gay Gangbang?

Group sex isn’t the same as a gangbang or a gang-fuck. A gang-fuck is where one guy is kind of the centre of attention and is being fucked by everyone else. In a group sex scenario, you’d generally expect everyone to be getting it on with everyone else – in various ass fucking combinations, as events unfold.

Where Can I Find Gay Group Sex?

There are a few different ways to connect with gay males who are interested in group sex. Online communities and forums that cater to the LGBTQ+ community or, of course, a gay hookup app like Squirt.org; these platforms often have driven males looking for one thing and one more thing: hot, horny, sweaty sex.

Although sex party organizer pros will tell you, there’s nothing like recruiting for a gay sex party in real life, getting a chance to see the goods in person. Attending LGBTQ+ events and parties in your area, such as Pride parades or local gay bars, is a great way to get a group together.

Keep it casual; light flirting and heavy petting, then followed by the desire to gather a bunch of fellas to fuck may be more impactful than starting the conversation with, “Hi, my name is ______, and I want your help organizing a threesome.” Don’t get us wrong, that direct, no-nonsense approach may work with some, but in real life, some form of social (if feigned) social graces go a long way to create persuasion.

Sex is relaxed and casual and sometimes needs a bit of aloofness to come together for that perfect chemistry; as horny and hungry as you might be for male flesh on your lips and cock, working the crowd and leading with a bit of mystique may be the best solution to having seven hungry holes and cocks back at your place by the time the bar stops serving.

It’s important to remember that communication, consent, and respect are key when exploring group sex.

Set boundaries and communicate your desires; consent will always remain king! Approach group sex with an open mind and a focus on safety and consent; you can enjoy a fulfilling and pleasurable experience with others in a supportive and inclusive environment.

Beyond the bars, here are four other options to gather the ‘gents for a bit of careless fucking fun.

Bathhouses

Hitting up your local bathhouse near you, sauna, or sex-on-premises venue is one of the easiest options if you’re in the mood for some group sex.

You’re not always going to find group sex action at a bathhouse, and not everyone at a bathhouse will necessarily be up for an orgy. However, you’ve automatically got multiple guys in a venue, all up for fun, all naked and ready for action.

Plus, some bathhouses have sex slings, so you can have easy access to having your ass used and abused by multiple males looking to pump and dump in a guy like you!

If you’re looking to initiate or get involved in some group sex action at a bathhouse, put yourself in situations where you’re in the same zone as other guys.

The sauna or the steam room is always a hot spot, or hang out in the hot tub for a bit. If there’s a room with some sofas where there’s porn on the screen, then that could also be an excellent place to get the party started.

Gay Personals

The rise of gay hookup apps has been a bit of a game-changer for guys who are looking for group sex.

You can simply put in your profile what you’re looking for – whether that’s just a bit of gentle ass licking through to a 10-man gang-fuck or a 3-day orgy.

In addition to updating your profile, actively message guys near you and see how many you can line up for a session.

Not everyone will be looking for the same thing, but there’s no harm in asking the question. You’ve got to be a bit proactive – a Google search on ‘gay sex parties near me’ isn’t going to deliver many results.

Local Homes/House Party

If you’re looking for group sex on hook-up apps, then it’s likely that you’ll end up with guys at your place or being invited over to someone else’s place.

The host and the guys there shape the vibe of these house parties. Generally, they’re pretty relaxed—everyone is there to chill and kick back.

There will be sex; there will be talking; there will be smoking, and there will be more sex. No one is in a hurry.

The main thing at a house party is to respect the host. Don’t invite random guys to join you at someone’s place unless you’ve cleared it with the host first. If the host asks you to leave, it’s time to go.

Sex Parties

If you’re a bit of an exhibitionist, then getting loose at a sex party is a lot of fun.

These will generally be organised, ticketed events at a club or designated venue. Some promoters will host weekly parties, others might be monthly, or you may need to get on their mailing lists or follow their socials to know what’s going down and when.

Club-based sex parties might happen during the day or at night and could range from being a club night that has a dark room, to a gay underwear party, to a naked party or just a full-on kind of event where everyone is there to fuck.

What is the Etiquette at a Gay Group Sex Party?

There are no hard and fast rules about how to run a group sex encounter or how to behave when you’re at an orgy.

The main thing is to be respectful and contribute positively to ensuring everyone is having a good time. Don’t be a boner-killer.

Consent still matters. Even if you’re at an orgy and everyone is naked, consent still matters. You don’t have to do anything you don’t want to do, and if you’re unsure if someone is giving you the green light to get intimate, reign it in a bit until you’re sure you’re both on the same page.

Don’t set your expectations too high for a sex party. It could be an extraordinary sexual experience, it might just be a bit of fun, or it might not turn out quite the way that you’d hoped. Go with the flow.

If you’re not having fun, it’s time to leave.

Plan an Orgy Yourself

If you’ve got a group of guys lined up for fun, why not host?

Planning a house party for some group sex is pretty much like planning any sort of party.

Pick a date and then start firming up the guest list. Ideally, you want to start with a core group that you can rely on to turn up and have fun – your gay daddy group sex buddies. You can then expand your numbers through word-of-mouth and hitting up guys on hook-up apps.

It’s essential to set some boundaries for yourself – how many guys will you be happy to have at your place? Will you be comfortable if guys turn up that you haven’t met before? Is there a specific time when you need the party to end?

Think about the logistics. You might need some snacks and drinks – make sure everyone stays hydrated. You’ll probably want plenty of lube and towels. Will people be fucking on the sofa? Maybe you should cover that with a sheet. People will also probably want to change – if they’re not stripping naked as soon as they walk in the door, they might want to change into some comfortable shorts – have you got somewhere to store clothes?

As the host, you’ve also got a bit of a duty of care towards your guests. Is everyone having a good time? Is anyone being disruptive? Is the lighting too bright? All good? Let’s fuck!