Squirt.org Readers Ask: What’s Shibari Bondage?

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When it comes to a bit of BDSM and bondage play, how do you – literally – learn the ropes?

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Let’s take a look at the ancient art of tying each other up for a bit of fetish fun.

What is Shibari Gay Bondage?

In the context of sexed-up rope-play, people will often talk about Shibari.

Part of traditional Japanese culture, Shibari is an art-form. There’s more to it than just the sexual turn-on for everyone involved, but we’re going to focus on the kink aspects as opposed to the more artistic elements of rope-tying.

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Is Shibari Different from Other Types of Gay Rope Bondage and Rope Play?

Securing someone to the bed is one thing – that gives you the power dynamics that are essential for bondage-play – but Shibari is more than just the actions of tying someone up. Shibari places a lot of importance on the way that you tie someone up – the intricate knots and the patterns created by the ropes are fundamental to the whole experience.

With Shibari, you are restricting someone’s movement but doing it in an artistic and aesthetically pleasing way. Sure, you can combine the rope-tying with an erotic humiliation kink or some light spanking, if that’s what’s required to get everyone off, but the rope-tying itself is an essential part of the encounter.

Is there a Difference Between Kinbaku vs Shibari bondage?

Because we’re generally encountering rope-tying techniques in a non-traditional context, you’ll frequently see terms such as Kinbaku and Shibari used interchangeably. If you’re super-serious about it, you’ll know that there are differences which to the untrained observer may appear to be only slight nuances.

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Essentially, Shibari is typically used to refer to decorative and artistic rope-tying – emphasizing the beauty of the patterns and the aesthetic appeal of the ropes on the body. Kinbaku is more focused on the erotic and sensual aspects of rope bondage, with an emphasis on restraint and control.

Kinbaku is often seen as a more traditional and strict art-form. So if someone is talking about their practice of Kinbaku then they’re probably taking a more serious, cultural approach than if someone is demonstrating some Shibari rope-tying techniques.

A lot of practitioners combine elements of Shibari and Kinbaku to create the best experience possible for everyone. Traditions from other cultures may also be incorporated into rope-play – it’s best not to get too hung up on cultural accuracy when it comes to BDSM encounters.

How do I explore shibari sex rope play with a partner?

Learn the ropes

Before you try and tie anyone up, you need to learn how to create and secure the knots required. It’s best to practice by tying your rope onto an inanimate object – such as a piece of wood – before trying to get sexy with it.

Some of the more commonly used Shibari techniques include:

The overhand knot

This is a basic knot that’s generally described as a stopper knot. You probably already use this in everyday tasks without knowing about its use in Shibari.

The overhand knot on a bight

This is a simple knot that creates a loop in the middle of the rope – known as the bight. This knot is essential in Shibari because it enables the use of two strands of rope. You should avoid crossing the ropes. Also, be cautious when tying anything with weight as it can be challenging to untie.

The Lark’s Head

A basic hitch technique used in Shibari to attach ropes to objects or each other, the Lark’s Head is the starting point for many ties and can be used to attach ropes quickly.

The square knot

A flat knot is created by tying two overhand knots in opposite directions. It’s commonly used in Shibari when you run out of rope and must attach another one.

The Prusik Head Knot

A knot that slides when not under tension and locks when tension is applied. It adds a new level of creativity to Shibari. To tie it, wrap the rope around your thumb and index finger and slide the loops. To use it, tie another rope around a fixed anchor and slide the Prusik knot along it. It will slide smoothly when no tension is applied and lock when tension is applied. Experiment with different amounts of tension and speed to see how it works.

The inline Prusik Head knot

Allows for adjustable tension points along a rope, creating dynamic patterns that can be easily adjusted without needing to untie or reposition the ropes. Experimenting with this knot can help you understand its uses and benefits.

The crossing hitch

A technique in Shibari is where one rope is wrapped around another to prevent it from moving around, which helps keep the tie secure and comfortable for the person being tied.

X-Friction

In Shibari, friction is a great way to keep ropes in place. The X-Friction is a good choice for attaching ropes that cross each other in a T-shape. It is quick to tie, easy to untie, and remains solid under tension.

Frictions are a quick and easy way to keep ropes in place in Shibari. The X-Friction is a great choice for attaching ropes that cross each other in a T-shape. It is secure under tension and easy to untie.

Communication is Key

When engaging in rope bondage, it is crucial to have open and honest communication about consent. Consent is the cornerstone of any healthy and safe BDSM practice, including rope bondage.

Before starting any bondage session, it is essential to have a conversation with your partner about their boundaries, limits, and desires. Discuss what activities are on and off the table, what safe words or signals will be used, and how to check in with each other throughout the session.

Talking about consent can feel intimidating, but it is essential for a positive and respectful experience. Consent is ongoing, and using hand signals or a safe word to reinforce consent, boundaries, and expectations consistently is essential. Always prioritise your partner’s comfort and well-being during a rope bondage session.

Start Slow

If you are new to Shibari, start with simple ties and knots before moving on to more complex patterns. Practice basic ties on your own or with a trusted partner to build your confidence and skill level.

Learn from Experts

Consider taking a workshop or class on Shibari from experienced practitioners to learn proper techniques and safety precautions. Online tutorials and resources are also available.

Written by Gareth Johnson

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