If you’re a seasoned pro at butt-play, you’ll be familiar with the pleasure you can get from toys of all shapes and sizes. But if you’re new at the butt-game, let’s walk you through the basics.
What is a dildo?
When we talk anal pleasure, getting fucked is great but gay sex toys also have an important role to play.
Toys can come in a huge variety of options but the most common from that a dildo takes is a cock-shaped object that can penetrate your butt similarly to being fucked by a dude.
Why, as a gay man, would I buy my first dildo?
If you’re into a bit of man-on-man action, a dildo can play two important roles.
The first is functional. If you’re wanting to experience gay anal sex, using a dildo can help prepare you both physically and psychologically for the sensation of having a hard uncut cock penetrating your butt.
Starting small and gradually increasing your gay anal training dildo size is a useful way of developing the confidence that you’ll be able to take however many inches your hook-up is packing. If you’ve been talking a big game, you don’t want to feel intimidated and unable to go through with it – trying to get your hook-up off with hot mouth stuff probably isn’t going to cut it.
Lots of guys also use dildos as part of their gay douche routine. Giving yourself a bit of dildo action will help to ensure that you’re clean and confident and ready for action.
The second role that a dildo can play is all about pleasure. Whether you’re looking to enhance your solo masturbation experience through prostate stimulation or to add a different dimension to your hook-up, a sex-toy is probably the most effective way to unlock the pleasure of your prostate.
I’m Shopping: what should I look for in my first gay dildo for ass pounding?
Size and Girth
While it’s good to challenge yourself, if you’re just starting out then it’s better to err on the conservative side when looking at options of what to stick up your butt.
Shopping Tip: Most dildos will tell you what the “insertable length” is. While the product may be advertised as a “12-inch Monster” that doesn’t mean that you’re going to fucking yourself with the full 12 inches.
Material
Dildos will generally be made out of silicone but you’ll also come across glass and stainless steel options. Avoid cheap plastic dildos as they’re not as durable and won’t feel great. The type of material that your dildo is made from may influence the type of lube that you choose for your butt-play. For example, if your dildo is made from silicone then you will want to avoid silicone-based lubricants as they can deteriorate the dildo.
Shopping Tip: A simple silicon dildo is a good starting point if you’re wanting to explore the world of sex-toys. Make sure you store it somewhere out of direct sunlight – an easy option is to put it in a sock in your underwear drawer.
Textures and Shape
Once you start looking at dildos you’ll quickly realise that they’re available in endless colours, shapes, and sizes, as well as having a lot of different features to choose from.
Shopping Tip: Start with simple and straightforward options to begin with. A good option is a dildo with a suction cup on the base – you can stick the dildo to the bathroom wall or the floor and really go to town.
Travel
If you’re travelling for a sex tourist vacation or to a gay clothing-optional resort, a dildo is a bit of a no-brainer to include in your luggage.
Depending on your destination, you probably don’t want to have your dildo in your hand-luggage. Security scanners often flag dildos as suspicious items which might require your bag to be searched and unnecessary delays.
How to buy a dildo without being embarrassed
In theory, there’s absolutely no need to be embarrassed about buying a sex-toy – it’s part of our sexual experience and exploration, there’s nothing shameful about it. However, in reality, there’s a range of reasons why you might feel a bit uncomfortable about buying a dildo.
For example, you might have some internalised shame that you’re still working through, you might not be open about your sexuality or ready to publicly acknowledge that you like butt stuff. You might be in a relationship in which your passion for butt-pleasure may be problematic.
Buying a dildo in person gives you an opportunity ensure that the product feels like what you’re looking for, but in-person buying requires you to go into a store – that can be a bit intimidating if you’d prefer to keep your dildo purchase on the down-low.
You may also be restricted from in-store purchases because of where you live – you may not have easy access to a retailer who has sex-toys available for purchase.
With the emergence of the internet, there’s now a huge range of online options for buying sex-toys. That makes it easier to browse anonymously and discretely. You’ll need somewhere secure for the product to be delivered to but you’ll soon be unwrapping your purchase, greasing up, and getting down to business.
