Do you spit on it to get it wet? Let’s take a look at why some guys use spit as their go-to lube option.
Why use spit as lube?
The simple answer as to why guys use spit as lube is that it’s convenient.
If you’re having a quick wank, you can spit into your hand and you’ve got some wetness ready to go.
Likewise, if you’ve found some unexpected action in a gay cruising bathroom, you can spit on the dude’s hole to help ease your way inside him.
Spit is the friend of spontaneity.
But there’s also something a bit more organic about spit than a chemically manufactured lubricant. If you want the musk of sweaty man-on-man action, using spit as lube helps make that fuck feel really primal.
Speaking of primal, there’s probably also something instinctive about what it means to spit on each other. It could be a power-play – if a dude lets another man spits into his mouth, is that the ultimate form of submission?
Some guys also have a bit of spit kink or might even have a fetish for it.
There’s lots of reasons why spit may play a key role in your sexual encounters.
Why do I find using spit as lube such as turn on?
If using spit as lube is a turn-on for you, then you’ve probably got some kind of kink that somehow makes spit psychologically more arousing than fumbling around near the cumrags searching for a tube of lube.
One possible trigger for the kink is that using spit as lube runs counter to the whole concept of condoms and “hygiene” being the foundation of safer sex. If you’re turned on my enjoying the feeling of a major cumshot flooding your stretched cunt, then you’re probably also going to find it fairly arousing to have a guy spit in your mouth or spit on your fuck-hole as he opens you up. It’s a bit piggy, in the best possible way.
Should I still be using spit as lube for gay bareback sex?
Using spit as lube doesn’t really work when you’re using condoms in your sexual encounters. If you want to wear a condom when fucking, you’re going to need your go-to lube brand to get the viscosity required.
But the skin-on-skin nature of gay bareback sex means that a bit of spit will take you a long way. Sure, you may need also need some lube to help get things started, but getting him wet with spit – rimming his ass and spitting on his hole – is a very fun way to build the sexual energy between you.
Obviously, if you’re exchanging bodily fluids, you are exposing yourself to a higher risk of transmitting or acquiring an STI. Studies show that not using lube while fucking probably results in higher rates of sexually transmitted infections. It’s not just the exchange of bodily fluids, but high-quality lube reduces friction and can help avoid micro-tears. If you’re just using spit, there’s likely to be more friction, your ass will probably get a bit more aggravated or “torn up” during the fucking, and those micro-tears can enable an infection to enter your body.
Should I use spit only when I’m getting into gay fisting?
When it comes to gay fisting, it’s unlikely that spit is going to provide sufficient lubrication for that kind of intense action.
Sometimes the porn that we watch can create unrealistic expectations – while you might enjoy jacking off to the image of a rosebudding twink quivering in a gay sex sling being fisted hard and deep without any focus on the logistics of how that fist got in there, the reality is that a lot of lube, patience, experience, and trust is required to open up a guy’s cunt like that.
What is the best fisting lube?
If you’re looking for the best gay fisting lube, what you need is a long-lasting lube that maintains viscosity. You also can’t have anything toxic that might cause a negative reaction in your body. Remember, this lube is going deep.
While water-based lube is easy on your body and easy to clean, it doesn’t have the viscosity required for an extended fisting session.
Most fisting experts opt for a concentrated powdered lube – it’s effective and affordable. But fisting experts will often take years of fisting sessions to figure out the lube that works best for them. It can be a bit of a personal preference, so you need to be open to trying different options until you find something that helps you achieve the level of pleasure that you’re looking for.
Which is better: silicon or water-based lube?
It’s a good idea to try different types of lube and to understand the merits of the options that you’re considering. For example, water-based lubes are compatible with condoms and make clean-up easier, whereas silicone-based lubes are generally longer-lasting and provide a smoother ride if anal sex is your thing.
With the development of tools such as PrEP, PEP, TasP, and DoxyPEP, most guys are ditching condoms in their sexual encounters so silicone-based lubes are generally the preferred option.
If you’re using a silicone-based lube for your fuck-down, a bit of forward planning will help with the clean-up. For example, it’s worth investing in a large gay sex towel to help protect your sheets.
Organic lubricants such as Shea Butter or Coconut Oil are worth trying out. There’s also products such as Albolene, which the bator community has embraced.
So, can you use spit as lube in 2025?
Spit is ideal for non-penetrative sex and can also work for bareback anal fun – particularly if you’re the kind of guy that produces so much pre-cum that you’re leaking all over the sheets.
But if you’re using condoms, fisting, or going for an extended session with many more than a few people, some high-quality lube is going to be required to maximise your pleasure.
